When our loved ones suffer we suffer – then how does love bring happiness?

Anwser Podcast

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thank you so you are asking that when our loved ones suffer we suffer so where is the freedom in that freedom does not necessarily mean being free from suffering freedom actually means being free for doing that which is important for us that means whenever we have to work for some higher cause then that involves accepting some amount of suffering but we have that higher cause which inspires us so when we love someone now it depends on what kind what is the reason for which they are suffering but our goal is not simply to avoid suffering as I said when a mother she is taking care of her baby she has to wake up late at night it is not a pleasant thing to do for her she might be tired she wants her rest but she wakes up but in taking care of the baby there is a deeper fulfillment over there so like that if we go through life simply thinking about how I can avoid suffering then we are underutilizing our potential our goal in life is to make a positive contribution ultimately to make a spiritual connection with Krishna so that we can attain eternal happiness and love with him so in the process of moving towards that destination we will go through ups and downs and if we take that suffering that we go through while doing our duties while being in our commitments that will also purify us now the problem comes when our attachment to our loved ones becomes disproportionate that means like in the Mahabharata the example of Dhritarashtra’s attachment to Duryodhana is there Dhritarashtra he was the king he was blind and he was blindly attached to his son and so he lost sight of right and wrong of dharma and adharma and he condoned adharma he engaged in he got himself entangled in adharma by that attachment so when a particular relationship blinds us so much that we lose perspective of right and wrong of dharma and adharma then that relationship is a problem from the perspective of our spiritual growth but otherwise even if there is some suffering because a loved one is suffering you know that through that we are all getting purified if we accept it in spiritual consciousness if we pray to Krishna for help if we go deeper in our relationship with Krishna see when a loved one is suffering naturally we are also suffering at that time but if they see a suffering that will increase their suffering we are meant to be a source of strength for them at that time and for that we need to go deeper into our connection with Krishna so if we connect with Krishna and we experience shelter in our connection with him then we can give shelter to others if somebody is sick and they see that we are so troubled by their sickness then that burdens them further if they see we are actually coping with it not that we are heartless and uncaring for them but that at least we are not on the verge of breaking down because of that then that makes them reassured that decreases one burden on them so our spirituality can actually help us to help others help our loved ones when they are going through difficult times does that answer your question thank you Hare Krishna any other questions please yeah yeah yeah