If people anger us how can we control ourselves?

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If we get angry for some reason, then how do we control ourselves and get back to the normal state? Remember one formula.
Those who anger you conquer you. Anger is a temptation which makes us feel, which gives us an illusion of strength. When we become angry, we shout at others, we blast at others, we throw things.
We think, I am being so strong. So anger tempts us by making us feel as if I am very strong. But then after that what happens? We often speak and do things which make the problem worse.
Which makes the other person also angry and then we have to say sorry for what we spoke and then we have to spend a lot of time and energy in trying to fix the issue. So what happens is if you just remember this those who anger me they conquer me. So anger is not a sign of strength.
Anger is a sign of weakness. To understand this, then first I will not want to become angry. Now this does not mean that somebody is troubling us we just let them do whatever they want.
We may have to report to someone somebody senior and do whatever it takes to protect ourselves. Somebody unnecessarily needling us pestering us we may have to report. But if we become angry at that time then they are trying to provoke us and they succeed in provoking us.
You know in cricket there is sledging. Heard of sledging? Sledging means what? The batsman is batting and then the fielders nearby, the wicket keeper, they start taunting the batsman. And the whole idea is the batsman may get angry and when he gets angry, the batsman thinks, I will show you.
And the batsman plays a rash shot and in playing a rash shot, the batsman gets out. So what happened is the batsman could have played calmly and could have scored very well. But the fielders made him angry.
And when he got angry, the batsman got angry, the batsman played carelessly and got out. So those fielders who angered the batsman they conquered the batsman. So when you see this point that those who anger us, conquer us we can get the impetus to not become angry.
To not give in to anger. Now what can we do at least we should be convinced that I don’t want to become angry. But after that what do we do? We can think of best is we have to find our own pause button.
Pause. So we may chant Krishna’s names. We may recite some song if we like.
Just sing some kirtan in our mind or loudly. Krishna, I don’t want to get angry. Pray to Krishna.
That can become your pause button. And then once you pause, at that time we don’t act, then we become calm. And then we can think about what should I do? It’s not that we should never act strong.
Sometimes we may have to act strongly. But we act strongly as a choice. Not as a reaction.
That means other person will not make me angry. But I may choose to do something which will be necessary to correct the situation. That I can do.
But we remember this. Those who anger us, what do they do? Those who anger us, conquer us. Remember that? We will be able to fight anger.
Okay? Yes.