How can we know whether the mind’s story is false or real?

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is there any other question? if your mind is telling you a story, how can I know whether it is real or is it just an assumption usually as I said, the mind is an expert storyteller so and the expertise of a story is that actually it has to seem like real there is somebody who does a fiction story also, the fiction story has to seem like real, otherwise people will not take it seriously so the mind is expert in telling the story and making it seem like real and that’s why we need a reality check the best reality check is some other friend somebody who is not seeing what the mind is seeing so if we have any close friends, trustworthy friends with whom we can consult that is a great fortune see the mamaya describes the story how initially when Kaikai heard that Rama is going to be coronated she was delighted and she gave a jewel necklace as a gift to Mantara but then Mantara has promised to her this whole thing is a conspiracy and what happened by the few hours Kaikai was ready to break the heart of her husband she was ready to exile her own son she did not care for the censure of the whole kingdom what happened? two things, she heard from Mantara something and secondly she did not consult anyone else she could have she could have consulted so many other people is this a conspiracy? sometimes the mind tells a story it’s best if we don’t hear it but if we somehow hear it instead of acting on it we consult someone else somebody whom we trust this is what I think this is is it really true? what do you think? why are you imagining something like this? they help us see things in perspective that’s why having friends is very helpful another thing is if we can’t consult friends generally if we are going to do something which is which is which is different from our normal course of action especially different in a negative sense then it’s best to press a pause button pause button I don’t know whether this is right or wrong so I will not do anything right just let me wait so for example if somebody becomes if somebody has done something which has made us furious and then we just want to give them a piece of our mind at that time at that time we may just blast out at that and things which we’ll regret later which can shatter their hearts so at that time now I’m angry and I can’t wish away my anger at the same time I can’t express that anger so let me just pause I’ll not speak anything right maybe I’ll write something down or I will it’s good or you can just write it down sometimes when I’m angry with someone I write an email but I don’t send that email and then I wait for 24 hours and after 24 hours if I read that email my god what have I written why did I write like this sometimes you know if you get angry and we speak something you know if another person recorded what we spoke and they showed us was that me or was that some ghost entered into me and spoke through me what is this so what happens when some when we are about to do something which we have doubts about should I do it or should I not do it then it’s best to pause it’s not we can’t see when the mind is spinning a particular story impelling us to do something to say no to it is very difficult but when you say pause we are not saying no so it is relatively easier see the mind is the mind is to be treated like a child basically child you have to somehow find some way to pacify the child so I just press a pause button ok I will not do anything right and then after sometime we come back and re-evaluate it so we need our intelligence to evaluate whether the mind story is real or not and for that we cannot think with our emotions we have to think with our reason the way the mind tricks us is that it makes the emotions the driving force and Arjuna when his emotions overwhelm him he was using his scriptural knowledge but he was using the scriptural knowledge to embellish the narrative that was spun by the mind so we need to check that so what we do is just pause pause if you can consult someone at the best but even if you can’t just pause sometimes the emotions just become too high we can’t think clearly at that time just pause after sometime the emotions go down the intelligence comes back and we can evaluate it this is what I was thinking sometime we find this is right but most of the time we find this is not the best thing to do does it answer your question thank you any other questions