When our filters distort our vision, how can we see things as they are?

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so if you don’t see things as they are because of our filters then how can we go beyond these filters and see things as they are one thing is that we can never see things entirely as they are because we can only expand our filters so that we can see more of reality so one of the best ways is to have good relationship with people who think differently from us often when people think differently it’s difficult to have good relationship with them but if we have at least a working relationship an issue is important and we are coming from it from one will and the way they are thinking just doesn’t make any sense rather than dismissing it we try to understand why they are thinking like that so rather quite often when there are differences instead of understanding the differences we judge the differences that means somebody is not doing it in a particular way you are irresponsible you are insensitive you are uncultured when we become devotees you are you can say all that kind of things also you can bring in all kind of labels but no we just try to objectively analyze that means ok this person is doing like this why are they doing like this so if we approach them and ask them then often they explain to us a major problem in relationship comes because instead of talking with people we talk about people instead of talking with people means A has some issue with B A has some issue with B and instead of A asking B in a gentle non-judgmental objective way A goes and tells C you know what we did and then C goes and tells B A said like this about me and then often what happens C puts in their own masala C adds some more spice to it and then what happens between A and B because their tension increases more and more so instead of talking about people better to talk with people so if somebody has an opinion different from ours just go and talk with them and try to understand their perspective so if we try to understand other people’s perspective then we say ok this thing can be seen in another way also Bhaktivinoda Thakur says in Chaitanya Shikshamrit that even with respect to the absolute truth he says Plato saw the absolute truth from the west and Patanjali saw the absolute truth from the east and both of them have described their absolute truth in different ways so we see things from our perspectives and those who have other perspectives if we try to understand them their perspective then it is not necessary that we will agree with them there is there are three things there is with respect to differences of opinion there is something which is which is you could say incomprehensible it doesn’t make any sense second is something intelligible and third is something acceptable agreeable you could say so it is not necessary that everything that anybody people’s opinions become agreeable to us but at least they can become intelligible understand why you are thinking like this so sometimes we are afraid to be open minded towards others because we feel that we may have to agree to them and we don’t want to give up our opinion it is not necessary like that two people can have two different opinions and they can both be right in their own ways so basically interacting with others helps a lot in opening our minds especially if a relationship is important then we need to rely less on second hand information and rely more on first hand interaction so you know this person he said like this she said like that second hand information often causes a lot of distortion so better first hand interaction that can help us to detect our filters and when necessary correct whatever filtering effect has happened to them