When different people consider different courses of action as right how to reconcile?

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So thank you very much. So in a particular situation, we may think that one thing is the right thing. Somebody else may think that something else is the right thing.
So how do we adjust? One thing is that life never comes with a guarantee of right decisions. We may do our best thinking. And we may do our best planning.
But sometimes the decision we take may turn out to be wrong. So I was talking with one devotee. He is telling me that he has been practicing bhakti for 45 years.
So he says, there is only one opinion that I am now strongly attached to. Do not be strongly attached to any opinion. So he says that.
But apart from that, everything else, I am in the wait and catch mode. Don’t make any definitive judgments. This is right and this is wrong.
This is good and this is bad. So basically, we use our best intelligence and we make the best possible. So we use our best intelligence in a particular situation and make a decision.
And if that person is in a position of authority and they take the decision that way, that’s okay. If we are in a position of authority, we take it our way. And we learn by experience.
And it’s not that decisions are always right or wrong. Decisions may be right from a particular perspective at a particular time. But when the perspective changes, the situation changes, so this is not the best decision.
So Bhaktivinoda Thakur says in a different context, that if we are meant to go this way, but then we found that we have gone off in this direction, we don’t have to go back till here. We can just move on from where we were. If I have gone till here, from here I can do the course correction.
So we try to communicate the rationale for our decisions as well as possible to others. And we try to understand the rationale of their objection as much as possible. And then based on that, if we feel that what they are saying makes sense, we may change our decision.
If we know what they are saying is okay, but I am convinced about this course of action. Then we move on. In general, while taking a particular decision or even sticking to that decision, if we don’t become dismissive about others, then they won’t take it so badly, so negatively.
If we just dismiss them, you are a fool, you don’t know anything, I know the right thing. Then that will endure the relationship. So if they know more than us, they are more experienced than us, and what they say makes sense, we may correct our decision, we may change our decision.
But if we decide to consider that decision, we can just be respectful to them and tell them this is my rationale and I will keep your concern in mind, but this is how I am going to move forward. That’s okay. We can’t have agreement over everything in this world.
So rather than focusing on what is right and what is wrong, it is difficult to determine. We can focus on, there is a perfect and there is the optimum. Optimum means, this is the best in this situation.
There might have been something better, which might be a better course of action, but in this situation, this seems to be the best, most workable for me. So I will do this. So rather than making a judgment about the person that you are wrong and I am right, or rather than even making the person that what you are suggesting is wrong, this is what works best for me.
And that’s how I am going to do this. So if we don’t make it a personal issue, then that may not have so much effect. Does that answer your question?