TRUST acronym for strengthening relationships
[Talk at ISKCON, Scarborough, Canada]
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so I will summarize I spoke on this topic of relationships, wisdom from the Ramayana between naivety and cynicism is the Ganesha trust, his trust so I talked about initially if within us the emotional faculties are too strong let’s say the accelerator, we move fast without checking the right path, that is naivety and if the brake is too applied then we don’t move forward at all, that is cynicism and we need a balance of both emotional and rational in moving forward in relationships so we talked about the story in the Ramayana of Vali and Sugriva primarily to understand how both of them had to because of being targeted and threatened by Vali he became very suspicious and he suspected Ram also and then I discussed about how anger leads to certainty of conviction which is unhealthy, which is what happened to Vali I am sure, I know what is happening and then I talked about trust, the acronym for understanding how we can move forward avoiding the extreme of naivety and cynicism so D was what was it? Think that means initially it might feel emotionally connected it might not feel emotionally connected but think means we apply our intelligence to try to understand, should I move forward or not intelligence means to put things in the proper perspective don’t just let one perception define everything, put the perception in context and then R was resolve resolve means we can’t just keep thinking, we have to do something we have to act it’s only when our thoughts interact with reality that we can check their validity like if a doctor gives a particular diagnosis and a prescription, we have to decide whether I want to take it or not if you just keep hearing the diagnosis and take 100 diagnoses nothing will work then U was understand understand was when I talked about the frame of reference whatever happens to us whatever other people do to us may not be about us we don’t have to take everything that everyone does too personally so I talked about understanding means to put things in the most constructive frame of reference I talked about a power switch going on could escalate it to the level of solar flares similarly different people can have different currencies in which they trade and we need to understand their currency so we understand 2 things, what is it that they complain most about what is it they appreciate most then S was step forward step forward means once we have understood which frame of reference they are coming from then tangibly start committing and contributing in their relationship and as we keep doing this, things start becoming clear whether something is going to work or not and then last is time time means we learn through the passage of time whether a particular thing is going to work or we find out the right distance at which a particular relationship works and even if a particular relationship doesn’t work so well if we have done our part, then Krishna will reciprocate so we don’t just see the relationship as just reconnecting with another person we see it as a part of our spiritual evolution every relationship forces us to come out of ourselves and the more we come out of ourselves the more we can ultimately reach Krishna