When we see some devotee doing something wrong, what should we do?

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If we say that devotion involves doing something improper or anonymous, not aligned with proper teachings, then it’s important to observe and understand the actions repeatedly before making conclusions. So, what should we do in such situations? Broadly, there are three possibilities.

First, the devotee might genuinely be doing something wrong. In that case, we have a devotional responsibility — either to protect that devotee or, at the very least, to inform others so they are not negatively influenced by those actions.

Second, which is the opposite extreme, is that it may just be our perception that the person is doing something wrong. In many areas of life, especially in spiritual practice, there are some core principles, but a lot of the details can vary. And just because someone does something differently, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s wrong.

Even within Krishna consciousness, we don’t exist in a transcendental bubble floating above the material world. Krishna consciousness is practiced in the context of the material world, and that means it will be expressed differently in different cultures. The way devotees practice Krishna consciousness in India might be different from how it’s practiced in the UK, or in Russia. Not entirely different — but there will be some differences.

Even historically, within Gaudiya Vaishnavism itself — let alone broader Vaishnavism — there have been significant differences. For example, the way Gaudiya Vaishnavism was practiced in Bengal, Odisha, and Vrindavan varied. Different kirtan styles existed — for instance, the style of Namacharya Haridas Thakur differed from the Mayapur Vaishnavas’ style.

So, not every difference is a deviation. These are two extremes: one, that someone is doing something wrong; the other, that our perception that it’s wrong is itself mistaken. Most often, reality lies somewhere in between — where both parties may be partially at fault. There may be elements of misunderstanding on our part and some actual deviation on theirs. It’s a mix.

If we repeatedly see someone doing something that disturbs us, it is better to seek clarification than to jump to accusations. If you’re close enough to the person, approach them respectfully and speak to them directly. If that’s not feasible, consult someone senior who knows both of you — someone who won’t misunderstand either of you. It’s best not to gossip or discuss the issue publicly, especially not on the internet.

Unfortunately, some devotees feel it is their service to publicize the faults of others. This should certainly be avoided.

Now, in the case where something genuinely serious is going on, it’s best to report it to a senior devotee. If we ourselves are in a senior position, we may have to confront the issue directly. In such situations, remember: it’s better to talk with others rather than talk about others.

Sometimes we hesitate — “What will that person think if I ask this?” — but if we ask respectfully and with genuine concern, we can often gain clarity. If we still don’t get a satisfactory explanation, then the best course may be to keep a respectful distance.

Every choice brings consequences. If we feel something is wrong and go on a campaign to stop it, that campaign must be pursued responsibly — through proper channels, not through public shaming. On the other hand, if we decide not to get involved, then we must accept that choice and keep our distance while maintaining our own standards.

Shastra is vast and flexible. Almost anything can be accommodated within it — whether that accommodation is appropriate or not, however, is open to discussion. We can always reflect and say, “I don’t know how Vaishnava this is.” Because ordinary vision cannot fully understand the heart of a Vaishnava.

So we can conclude: To me, this seems wrong. I will not act like this. I will not encourage others to act like this. But I cannot rectify it at this moment, so I will keep a respectful distance.

Ultimately, we must be prepared to accept the consequences of our choices — whether we decide to challenge something or choose to tolerate and move on. But in many cases, if we sincerely seek clarification, the issue can be resolved.

So always prefer clarification over accusation.

Thank you very much.