Understand male-female differences for speaking effectively, Bg 17.15

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Shastra has been made that every person has different types of powers and one of those powers which is given to all of us that is the power to speak the power to speak and that power is such that every person has it and our life is like a gun because if there is a gun then the gun will shoot very carefully I just came back from America I went to America to give a lecture it was a college lecture and I had a tablet which I used to show you and how was it when I was giving the lecture there was a white board which I was writing so I was writing and when I looked up there was no one in the class and then the teacher came and said duck under the table what happened? so he said let me tell you a story about a city he said there is an indication that a person came to the school with a gun so everyone is told that because he is coming under the table you should shoot so what happened all the students went under the bed under the desk there was no one so the organizer said you should shoot so the decision was made and later the door opened and a police officer came to the security it’s alright guys and he said what happened? he said it was a trial drill it was a test drill that if there is a signal everyone understands but the point is because in America people have a rule that anyone can buy a gun in any shop it’s very easy so what happens some people have a gun and when they get angry they shoot and especially in schools it’s very tragic when they shoot children one person goes crazy in anger and shoots everyone so if someone has a gun then he has an external power because he is a soldier so the more external power someone has the more internal power they have because they know when to use the gun and when not so what happens here if our outer power if we have more external power the more if we if we have outer power then we need more internal power external power we have the more internal power we need so we may not have 10 guns but our soul is like a gun so with a gun people’s body gets destroyed so with the soul to people if someone worked hard for 15 years and in 15 minutes he says something then he can for 15 years so we all have this power and if we use it negatively then what happens we destroy the relationships we can break the relationship but if we use it positively then what happens Chandrapati says if there is a king then for the king the most important thing in the sword using the sword is the most important he says the most important among all the husbands is to keep his word because the king alone can fight to some extent but the king does not have a good army so he gives inspiration to his soldiers and they are ready so the power of the soul if we use it positively people get inspired so we can inspire them so how can we use this power this is what God is telling in this verse and this is very important for everyone so this is important for everyone but especially God is telling this verse this is especially important for the Brahmins and why? I will explain here if we want to make our speech effective so God says the effective speech has two goals one is that it is sensible sensible means it is logical and second is that it is sensible which is sensitive so what are the two meanings of sensible? God is saying the most truthful this is this is if it is logical if it is helpful if it is good so first of all it should be truthful here God says and second is helpful we can say a lot but we should say which is truthful and which is useful so this is and second God is telling which is which does not distract others so this is non-agitating it should be such that the other person does not get distracted and not only that God says it should be at least not distracted it should be pleasant non-agitating action now distracting others what does pleasing mean? pleasing means it should be such that the other person gets pleased so now what happens every person every person has a mentality and their words are so sensitive that I am saying this with logic this is the problem this is the solution I am trying to explain but you are not understanding so the women are more sensitive than the men it is not like all men are sensitive and all women are sensitive every person has a different combination but how is it the female body has a special character that she has a child and then she has to take care of the child so a very small child a young child so in his behavior there is no logic sometimes he starts crying sometimes he does this sometimes he does that so if a young child has to take care of the child he talks with logic why are you crying keep quiet he can do this also so if there is any pain or discomfort so the mother has a very sensitive mind so that is why naturally the women are more sensitive but the reason for this if this sensitivity is more in the females and the sensitivity sorry the logical logic is more in the men now it is not like every woman is the same and every man is the same so every person has a different problem but the majority some people are more sensitive some people are more sensitive so now it is said that the words we are saying the good words the effective words they are also sensitive and they are sensible so that intellect that which is sensible that our intellect or that our intellect that now yes yes I was just telling you the sensitivity our intellect our mind likes it the intellect is sensitive so what is it? both are sensible so now it is Malvini’s birthday and on that birthday she forgot the name of the birthday there there is a gathering On that day, we have a soft feeling, we have an expectation. On any wedding anniversary. On any wedding anniversary.
So we have an expectation. Now they say, we have been together for a year. What will happen if we separate? That is a big thing.
So, what happens to men? They talk logically. This is the problem, this is the solution. But if we are only sensible, then we become hard hearted.
We become unsustainable only in the name of logic. But if we are only sustainable, then we become aggressive. Completely.
So, both are extreme. That the feeling is too much, and the feeling is nothing. So, if both come together, then this is the best.
So, sensible plus sensitive. If both are there, then what are the promises? That is a compulsion. So, in this analysis, we will start with some examples.
So, there is a story of Ramayana. On the basis of this, how two people are making promises from different perspectives. And the result is different.
Very difficult. So, there are two incidents in Ramayana which change the story of Ramayana. For example, in a movie, there is a plot twist.
So, there are two big plot twists in Ramayana. Can anyone tell me which two plot twists are there? The story changes completely. It does not go in one direction, it goes in the opposite direction.
The exile of Ramachandra. He is going to become a prince, and he is going to be exiled. And who is the other one? Sita.
So, he is going to be exiled. He is going to be exiled. One year and a half is left.
So, he is going to be exiled. So, now, we will talk about the second one. So, the promises we are making, how the promises have an effect, how the promises have an effect, we can do it from that perspective.
Now, I was telling you about the promises. We can break the hearts of others with those promises. We can break the hearts of others with those promises.
So, how do we do that? We can say a lot of things through the promises. You go and bring this, don’t forget that, do this and that. So, we need to make promises in a practical way.
So, we need to make promises in a practical way. But, especially, in our world state, what do we do? We do a lot of things through our promises. One is, daily function.
If someone is driving a car, then ask him to drive slowly, don’t drive too fast. If someone is working, ask him to do this and that. This is possible.
There is no problem with this. But, sometimes, we make judgments. What does judgment mean? We take out some difficulties.
For example, someone has been asked to bring something, and he forgets to bring it. I have never seen such a weak person like you. You can take so many responsibilities.
So, when we make judgments, this is natural. This is a big problem. But, the biggest problem is when we make blinks.
What does blink mean? It means, all this happens because of you. You are like this. When this happens, then, people feel very bad.
It is a natural process. It is a natural process. So, now, we don’t have to blame anyone when we make judgments.
But, we have to see how this happens. Sita’s abduction is a very tragic person. It is a very sad person.
Because of this, a lot of things become dramatic. Like, Rakesh Ram Chandra’s meeting with Hanuman Ji. Then, Rakesh Ram Chandra’s meeting with Hanuman Ji.
Rakesh Ram Chandra’s meeting with Hanuman Ji. It is a very good, interesting, heroic meeting. But, in this discussion, now, in this, how does this happen? We will discuss about this.
So, first of all, why did Sita’s abduction happen? Because, Ravan was present. So, what did Ravan do? We will discuss about that. But, what happened after that? Ravan used someone.
Who did he use? He used Marichu. What did Marichu do? He danced in the form of a deer. So, in the form of a deer, wherever Ravan, Chandra, Anga, Kumbhia were, they started dancing in the form of a deer.
And, Sita, while dancing in the form of a deer, looked through the window and said, this deer is very beautiful. She said, Ravan, come here. See, how beautiful it is.
Then, Ravan started looking. And, the deer also came. So, when Sita saw it, how beautiful it was, she said to Ravan, what can we do with it? We will take it as our pet.
And, it is in the forest. If we come together, it will become our pet. And, after that, when we will go to the world, then we will send this Kaushalya Mantra to you.
So, the memento of our if you remember, it will be a very pleasant and attractive memory. Because, we went to the forest, we were very sad. But, when we came back from the forest, we brought such a beautiful thing, and they were very happy.
So, now, the first thing that started was that from Ravan’s scheme, Ravan’s scheme, and we kept it aside. So, Sita’s desire. So, was this Sita’s desire wrong? It is a selfish desire.
And, it is a snatchable desire. It is an attractive thing. And, in a way, it is a selfless desire.
It is a selfless desire. She was going for herself. She thought that if she will get this, then she will become Kaushalya.
So, in this desire, till here, nothing is wrong. So, now, when Sita says this, then Ram and Sita have changed. They have changed.
Lakshman says that this something in the Dal. If this is something in the Dal, then this is the Dal itself. So, he says that this desire, this is perhaps not right.
He says that such a beautiful deer does not exist. So, he says that it is too good to be true. So, it is so good that it can be true.
So, perhaps it can be true. But, it is very attractive. So, something is wrong in this.
And, he says that if you look at it, it is a simple deer. So, if a deer is playing here, then the deer is not dangerous. So, if a deer is playing here, then the other animals around it also play here.
He says that the deer is playing here, but there are no animals around it. So, something is wrong here. So, Sita says to him, Lakshman, you are very suspicious.
So, why are you so suspicious? A beautiful deer will bring it here. Yes, but it will also be an animal. So, what is the problem? Both of you are very suspicious of animals.
You don’t understand. So, he says that I will bring it here. So, now, then, Lord Rama thinks that this beautiful deer will stay with me.
He didn’t even need to come here. I was also telling him to come here. But he himself came here and supported me.
He never left me. So, if this thing is going on, then we should leave. That is why, Rama leaves.
Departure. So, here also, did Lord Rama do anything wrong? No. His intention was to stop the rope.
He wanted to of Sita. But now, when he went behind the deer, as soon as he saw the deer, he left. He didn’t come back.
It was 1 o’clock in the evening. Some animal saw him. So, he left.
Now, when he went behind the deer, what happened? Lord Rama followed him. As soon as he reached one of them jumped with a high tail. Rama was surprised.
How can a deer jump so high? How can a deer jump so high? So, he went back to him. He jumped again. In this way, Lord Rama was very surprised.
As soon as he came near him, he started jumping. Now, when Sita had told him to bring the deer, Lord Rama told Sita that this deer is not very dangerous. If Lord Rama comes, he will catch it.
After some time, more time passed. So, what happened? Sita’s worry increased. When she was worried, her worry increased.
Suppose, I know that there is going to be a storm. But, I tell her that I want to buy something from the market. She says, there is going to be a storm.
You also go to the market. So, I say, let’s go. But, the storm is very dangerous.
And, my daughter is worried about her husband. And, we also have some responsibility. We feel guilty.
I asked for this. I asked for this. For my wish, he went there.
So, we are more worried. Similarly, Sita’s worry increased. And, Lakshman told me that maybe this is not right.
Earlier, I did not pay attention to him. But, his words were in his mind. And, when Ram did not come, the time was passing.
So, his worry increased. And, like this, Sita’s worry So, at that time, Ram and Sita were very far apart. They did not have vision.
They grew up without vision. And, when Ram was about to reach the hill, Ram’s mind was he is jumping from here and can run very fast. I am also running fast.
But, he is jumping alone. And, he was doing like this. Suppose, he is here, and he is getting vision from there.
He is jumping from so far. Once, he reached there, he was about to catch him. He was standing far away, and it seemed as if he was making fun of him, as if the deer was laughing at him.
That’s when I realized that maybe this is not a deer. He was already interested in Lakshman. He was thinking that this is a deer, and this is a man.
That’s when he decided to kill the deer. He was trying to make me laugh. He took the deer with him, but he hadn’t released the arrow yet.
But now he has released the arrow. The arrow on the deer is called Amogh Sharam. Amogh Sharam means that the arrow never hits the target.
As soon as the deer saw that Lakshman is sick, he jumped into the air. As soon as the deer saw that Lakshman was sick, he jumped into the air. As soon as he jumped into the air, he met a deer.
He recognized the deer. He had killed the deer before, but he had released the arrow. He had killed the deer before, but he had released the arrow.
As soon as the deer saw that Lakshman was sick, he jumped into the air. As I have said many times, the demons can take different forms. But they have the power to keep that form.
They have the power to keep the form. and that’s why when they are attacked with a life-threatening attack or a life-threatening injury, all their powers are used to save their own lives. That’s why the disguises they have made, they are able to do that.
For example, we can say something else. Right now, I have a different kind of voice. I can imitate someone else’s voice.
But if someone is attacking me, if someone is trying to kill me, if I say, save me, then he will forget to imitate me. Then I will say my own voice. Because I have never said, save me, loudly.
I have never imitated anyone. So what happens is, the demons have different kinds of powers. But when someone is attacked, then all their powers are used to save themselves.
That’s why the disguises they have made, they are able to do that. For example, when Krishna gives his life to Putana, then the disguises are made. So it’s not a very beautiful disguise.
But when Krishna gives his life to Putana, then the disguises are made. In the same way, Marij’s disguises are made. And when the disguises are made, then here, what does Marij do? According to Shrayana, he shouts, Lakshman! Sita! He shouts loudly.
And when he shouts loudly, then only, we understand that this is a complete Shrayana. He is able to eat Lakshman. Lakshman! Lakshman! Lakshman! Lakshman! Lakshman! So we understand that he has come to take milk from Lakshman.
So he quickly goes to the Ashram. He sees that Ashram is dead. So he immediately goes back to the Ashram.
Now, here, Lakshman and Sita are together. And they both hear, Lakshman! Lakshman! He shouts loudly. It’s Ram’s voice.
Seeing this, Sita, is very angry. She says, I don’t want milk. And, Lakshman, I don’t want milk at all.
So, Sita says, Lakshman! Why aren’t you awake? So Lakshman sees that Sita is angry. So, to calm Sita down, he himself calms down. And he says, don’t worry.
This is Ram’s voice. This is the demon who is imitating Ram. So, what is happening now? We are disturbed.
We are worried. We are anxious. And we go and report what has happened.
So, whatever their intention is, if we tell them something, and after telling them, they don’t show any reaction. They don’t show any reaction. So, what happens? First, we are disturbed by what has happened.
After that, we are even more disturbed by what I have told you. Why aren’t you taking such serious things seriously? So, sometimes, we are not so disturbed by the situation. The other person is not taking us seriously.
We are even more disturbed by that. Now, the other person’s intention is to calm us down. That’s why they don’t show any reaction.
They don’t get disturbed. But, what happens? The English word for both is different. So, what happens now? Sita, as I told you, is called Vachan.
Vachan should be logical and sensible. It should also be sensitive. So, now, Sita is worried about Ram’s voice.
Why aren’t you counting Ram’s voice? And, Lakshman is talking about logic. He is imitating Ram’s voice. So, now, Sita gets even more disturbed.
And, what happens? When two people are talking, they are talking past each other. So, ideally, this person is talking to this person and this person is talking to this person. But, what happens? Sometimes, when two people are talking, it happens that one person is going this way and the other person is going that way.
So, it is like talking past each other. They are talking in front of each other but they are not talking to each other. Because, they are talking on different levels.
So, here, Sita is talking on the level of emotions. Ram is in danger. You go and help Ram.
And, Lakshman is talking on the level of logic. Ram is also there. He is imitating Ram.
Lakshman is imitating Ram. So, Sita gets disturbed. Do you think that I cannot recognize Ram’s voice? If someone is imitating Ram, I can recognize him.
This is not an imitation of Ram. This is Ram’s voice. So, how can you say that Ram is being imitated? Lakshman says that this imitation is very good.
That is why Ram is also being imitated. So, Ram is in danger. He is calling you for help.
So, he says that this imitation is so good that he is saying that Ram cannot be imitated. And Ram is so powerful that he cannot be imitated. No one can put him in danger.
That is why he is asking for help. He is calling for help. He cannot be imitated.
So, what is happening here? Logically speaking, Ram is so powerful that he is so good in Dharma Vidya that no one can put him in danger. But, when we try to talk to Lakshman and Sita, why are they saying this? Lakshman is saying this because Sita is calm. However, Sita’s emotions are so strange here.
So, what is happening here is that she does not think about the power of Ram. This is love. So, yes, Ram is very powerful.
But, he can be in danger. If he is in danger, then whatever has to be done, he has to do it. He has to go.
So, Ram says, Lakshman, he has called you. Why don’t you go there? What is the problem? Go and see. Your Lakshman is calling you.
Go and see. So, Lakshman… It is still serious. I will explain it to Ram.
Ram told me that I will come there with you and you will be safe. I am not in any danger here. I am safe here.
Ram can be in danger. You go there. Nothing will happen here.
Lakshman says, the demons who have imitated this, their actions are not acceptable. I want to be safe here. So, once they Ram’s voice, there was no sound.
There was no sound. Why was there no sound? Because the demons imitated Ram’s voice. There was no sound.
So, now Sita is in danger. She is in danger. Now, what happens is that our… So, our reason, our logic and our emotion So, we all have both.
So, some people have more logic and less emotion. Some people have more emotion and less logic. But the basic principle is that both should be together.
God has said that people should understand each other’s logic and emotions. So, sometimes, if the logic is more and emotions are less, then the person’s logic and emotions will be better. So, what happens? Because of logic, emotions are not good.
For example, I was telling you that if we have a small child and we give him some medicine and that medicine is bitter. So, the child says that this medicine is good and I want to take an injection. So, now the child has pain and the mother also has pain.
But, there is logic. So, what happens? So, the child feels bad and we feel bad. Still, what happens? We tell him not to take the injection.
We try to calm him down but we don’t let him take the injection. So, sometimes what happens? We make our logic better and emotions go to the other side. So, what happens? The combination of both logic and emotions will go in one direction.
So, the logic will go in one direction. Sometimes it happens that the logic goes down and the emotions go up. So, still, we have to take the logic in one direction and the emotions in the other.
So, we go in the other direction. But, in reality, it doesn’t happen that only the emotions go in one direction and the logic goes in the other direction. When our emotions go in one direction, sometimes they make the logic better.
They make the logic better and the emotions go in the other direction. But, sometimes what happens? When the emotions go in the other direction, then not only the emotions go in one direction, but the emotions somehow pull the intellect from within. Meaning, it brings the intellect with it.
So, what do we do then? We take out some logic at the level of emotions. What does logic mean at the level of emotions? My intellect is here and the emotions coming from the emotions bring the logic in the other direction. So, what is the logic at the level of emotions? It is logic, but it is not logical.
Meaning, if a person has to do something, if a person has to do something, then he can do it with the help of reasoning. So, when he does something like this, then, he is not doing it on purpose. But, this is called emotional reasoning.
This is reasoning, but this is not logical reasoning. This is emotional reasoning. So, why is Sita worried? She wants that if Ram is in danger, then Ram should be Ram should be saved.
She is repeatedly telling Lakshman to go there. Lakshman is not ready to go there. Sita is not ready to go there.
Lakshman is not worried. Lakshman is not worried. Sita has gone to listen to Ram.
So, when Sita is in the state of emotions, why doesn’t Lakshman listen to Ram? Why doesn’t Ram listen to Lakshman? So, she does emotional reasoning. She does emotional reasoning. She says, I know why you have gone there.
She says, I know why you have gone there. you were in a relationship with me. And you came to the forest with me so that you could meet me.
You were waiting for the right time to meet Ram. And then you will be able to meet me. So, Lakshman is listening to you.
What are you saying? You are like my mother. I can’t even think of you. How can I think of you? So, now, you are telling me that I am not able to understand you.
But, Sita is so emotional that she says, But, you will never be able to reach me. If Ram is not there, I will give up my life. But, you will never be able to touch me.
Your wish will never be fulfilled. So, Sita is saying that I cannot Lakshman. I cannot bear it.
But, you are crying. I cannot bear it. So, Sita is crying.
She is worried that Ram will die in front of her. So, Lakshman says, I am also leaving from here. I am afraid that when I will come here, something bad will happen here.
But, my wish, contrary to my desire, I am leaving from here. And, he leaves from there. And, when he leaves from there, in later Ramayana, there is no mention of Lakshman.
In later Ramayana, there is a detail about Lakshman. But, here, Lakshman leaves. Now, he is running and going.
And, from that direction, he starts and from the other direction, someone is coming fast. He can’t bear it. A demon is coming.
And, he is getting ready. He sees Rakshi Ram. He can’t bear it.
Ram will die. But, Ram becomes restless seeing him. He says, what are you doing here? Why are you leaving Sita and coming here? Now, Lakshman used to be very logical.
But, here, his emotions have reached very low. Now, he can’t even speak. He can’t speak.
So, Ram asks him, what is it? He says, Sita told me to follow Ram. I was not going. So, now, I am listening.
Sita is in her emotions. Why did you take her words so seriously? You should have come. And, at the hotel, there was a hotel.
When we used to go there, both of us used to come together. There, Sita was not there. There, there used to be a lot of people.
But, Sita was not there. So, now, when Lakshman sees that Sita is not there, then what happens? Lakshman thinks that if someone says this to me, I should say this. I should say this.
But, it is not like that. Even he understands that in that situation, when Sita said this, he said this. So, very confused.
It is not like that, when the war ends, and when he meets Sita, Lakshman says to Sita, first, forgive me. No. What he said is bad.
But, what happened is much worse than that. So, what he said is In Ramayana, it is not mentioned later. Ram does not mention it.
Lakshman mentions it. But, Sita does not mention it. So, what happens in this? When we see these two things, when someone comes under the influence of emotions and says something, then, don’t see intention.
What does intention mean? You have understood it. Don’t see intention in what is spoken in tension. Don’t see intention in what is spoken in tension.
Don’t see When someone says something under the influence of emotions, how can you speak like that? How can you think like that? I don’t want to say anything to you. So, in a way, when someone says something, the words spoken are two different things. One person is speaking, and the other person is listening.
So, the one who is listening, what should be said about him is that under the influence of emotions, sometimes he says something. So, he needs to be more focused. Sometimes, this is one question.
This is very important. Sometimes, people say that something is happening in my mind, and I don’t know what to say. When I was in India, I was living with a family.
I saw that the father and his son were speaking very coldly. Very coldly. They were speaking to each other without any time.
So, my son used to to my program. I said, what is the matter? He said, I don’t practice with anyone. But, for many years, he didn’t show me any love.
So, my father was speaking to him without any time. I asked him, what is the matter? He said, your son is speaking like this. I asked him, what is the matter? He said, a few years ago, when my son was in college, my wife passed away.
After that, I was taking care of my daughter. At that time, there was an exam for 10th standard. It was a 10th standard exam.
That time, you and I had to study late. And, he said to me, pick me up as soon as possible. So, I could study.
I had an exam. So, I was studying late. I picked him up.
I thought, if I sleep less, I can study. But, if I sleep less, I won’t be able to study. I won’t be able to do the exam.
So, I picked him up. But, he didn’t wake up. So, I didn’t force him to wake up.
And, he woke up after 2-3 minutes. And, as soon as he woke up, he became so angry. I didn’t wake him up.
I said, wake him up. He said, at that time, there was a joke. It had two names.
He said, first and last, my mother said, you would have died. And, he said, I was trying to do everything for him. My wife has passed away.
I am trying to do everything for my child. How can he say this to me? Then, I talked to his son. I said, I don’t remember.
He said, at that time, I don’t remember what happened. He said, I used to see how sad my father was. My mother has passed away.
And, I said, if I study well, if I get good marks, then my father will be happy. So, I was studying so hard for his happiness. I was trying to get good marks.
So, he was worried about that. And, because of that, I became very weird. I didn’t even know what to say.
I said, what happened to you? He said, I told you because I didn’t know what to think. He said, you will die. I said, it has happened.
If it happens, I will die. So, I was very worried. So, even the best of us, we can be good.
But, sometimes, we can be caught in emotions. And, we can say such things that can hurt others. So, here, We will come to one more point, that if someone is making a promise to us, then in their point of view, it means don’t see intention.
So, in what is spoken, intention. If someone has said something in a situation, then understand that he is speaking in a situation, don’t take it too seriously. But, this is from this person’s point of view, who is going to listen.
But, what is being spoken is from another point of view. So, what is being said? Don’t use tension as a justification. Don’t use your words as a justification.
Whatever has been said, has been said. And, as far as effort is concerned, no matter what happens, we will not make such promises. In a way, it is a person’s character.
We can understand our character from a different point of view. So, the aim of a character is our boundaries. Our boundaries.
Because, in our life, life is such that we all get separated. We all get provoked. So, Prabhupada ji says in Krishna’s book, One’s greatness has to be estimated by one’s capacity to tolerate provoking situations.
That is, how can we tolerate a situation that provokes us? That shows our greatness. So, this world is such that everyone gets provoked. So, everyone gets provoked.
But, if one person gets provoked, if one person gets angry, what happens in anger? There is a boundary. If one person speaks softly, then that person will speak very loudly. In a family, people are talking.
Suddenly, someone speaks loudly. What happens to everyone? The volume also increases. This is not right.
But, if one person gets angry, then he speaks loudly. This is one boundary. We call it a boundary.
There can be another boundary. If one person speaks loudly, then he speaks inappropriate words. He speaks swear words.
He speaks vulgar words. Such words are not spoken in a harmonious family. Such words are not spoken in a harmonious family.
So, this is also a boundary. There are many people who speak bad words. But, if they are spoken in front of children, they do not speak such words.
Children do not have this habit. So, this is a boundary. But, if one person gets angry, then there can be another boundary.
He may speak in front of the whole world. He may say, he did this, he did that. This is a family matter.
There is no need to speak in front of the world. So, if we speak in private in front of the world, then either this person is not intelligent, or he is not discernment, that he should speak in front of the world. Or, he can insult the other person intentionally.
So, this is also a boundary. But, suppose one person gets angry, and then he speaks in physical violence. So, one thing is to speak loudly.
But, this is a very big boundary. Physical violence may be that he slaps you or punches you. But, suppose he takes out a knife or a gun.
So, this is a very big thing. What happens is, we all will get angry. The whole world will get angry.
But, our character tells us, which are the boundaries that we will never cross. That whatever happens, we should not do like this. So, there are some boundaries for all of us.
We will cross them. There are some boundaries, we will cross them. We will violate them.
We will destroy them. But, our character is seen by which boundaries are non-negotiable. Whatever happens, I am not going to do this.
So, suppose, we have a friend. He says, I am in a lot of trouble. Please help me.
What can I do? I have a lot of problems at home. I need money. I say, I don’t have much.
I will give you. I have a plan. I want to rob a bank.
You help me to rob a bank. I say, I am not going to do this. He says, we can help you.
But, friendship does not mean that we are going to rob someone. So, there are some boundaries for everything. So, our boundaries create a person’s character.
So, we should try not to get angry. Why am I not intelligent? Why am I not strange? There are some boundaries which I will never cross. So, when we understand this, God tells us that we should not get influenced by our speech.
Especially, if we understand that other people are influenced by other people. If I say this, they feel this way. Then, they say, I said it because of the situation.
But, the person does not remember that situation. It takes a long time. So, if we understand this, we should not get influenced.
So, if we are emotional, then, our emotions are influenced. Then, we get influenced. If we are logical, then, a logical person will be a fool.
How can I be a fool? If you tell that logical person that you have all this energy, he will not feel so bad. But, if you tell a logical person, you are a fool. Then, he will not agree.
So, we should develop our boundaries. How can we do this? This is the last point. How can we do this? Normally, our speech power, our ability to speak, has a negative direction.
It is a negative direction. We should not get influenced by it. So, we should develop boundaries.
We cannot do more than this. It is a taboo. So, what does it mean? In which direction we should go? Positively.
We should make it a habit. 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