The Mind Demands That Others Leave Us Alone And Then Complains They Dont Care For Us Gita 06.06

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the mind makes us demand from others that they leave us alone and then complains that they don’t care for us suppose someone we care for is going through a difficult phase when we try to help them they tell us just leave me alone and if we do their bidding then they complain you don’t care for me we would be confused about what to expect what do they expect us to do if this kind of ambivalent behavior is exhibited repeatedly then we may gradually learn to just do the needful without taking their words too seriously that means based on our best understanding of their needs we might sometimes be with them even when they tell us to leave or we might let them take responsibility for themselves without stepping in even when they ask us to so that they can grow up we need a similar pragmatic approach when dealing with our mind it often makes us believe that when we are going through difficulties and people step forward to help us that people are intruding into our space they are not giving us the space we need they are letting us go away they are letting us not take care of things ourselves so we might just tell them leave me alone but in the same mind later on starts complaining oh I am in so much trouble and I need help and there is no one there to help me the very kind of behavior that confuses us our mind may make us exhibit similar behavior if we just give in to its demand uncritically do its bidding uncritically therefore the Bhagavad Gita urges us to restrain our mind or it will act as our enemy the mind needs to be our friend but it can be our friend only when we regulate it otherwise it acts as our enemy so when the mind makes us feel that people are not giving us space or people are not caring for us either way rather than simply listening to it we need to process it there could be times when we need space seclusion to figure things out and there could be times when we need support and care to find our way through life’s challenges but which situation calls for what is something we can’t determine solely based on our mind’s feelings of the moment we need to use our intelligence and look back at our past experience to understand how we can best deal with challenging situations sometimes it may be by being alone and sometimes by being with others but when we choose a healthy option for dealing with others that’s when we start growing and that’s what will help us to not only grow ourselves but to ensure that our mind grows also apart from experience and intelligence if we also access transcendence that means we learn to remember our own spirituality and connect with the supreme transcendental reality Krishna that will also give us the strength by which we can process the mind more effectively and act constructively