If a painful memory keeps popping up what can we do?

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Amazing. So what you’re saying is that if something bad has happened in the past and that remembering that makes us angry then it becomes difficult to think about the future positively. Then that’s a very true thing. Uh I appreciate the thoughtful question two things. See uh we can’t choose our memories is what has happened in the past and the memories are you understand the word memories. Yeah,

what we remember, you know, we can’t choose our memories, what is going there inside us, but we can choose which memories we replay. Which memories we replay means that in our mind we can remember and something starts playing. So in our past bad things have happened. In our past good things have also happened. So maybe somebody hurt us terribly. But there are also people who are good to us, kind to us, friendly with us. Thank you.

So we can choose to replay the memories of people who are kind to us, people who are good with us. That way we won’t be constantly angry. Now having said that if somebody has hurt us or somebody has been bad has happened and we feel angry about that then it’s like sometimes we get an injury you know get hurt you get a cut you get the pain it’s paining over there. So what happens after that injury heals after that pain goes away sorry after that pain goes away but sometimes a small scar may remain you know the word scar

scar means I have a scar over here so a scar may remain so what happens is if the scar is not it’s it’s dried out then there is no pain so like that what happens that sometimes from the past The memory may remain but the pain won’t remain. The anger won’t remain. How that happens is that we pray to Krishna. We chant Krishna’s names and he say that Krishna this happened but Krishna you can bring some good out of it. Now that has happened let me accept it. And we pray to Krishna please give me help me to accept what happened. Now if that person is still going to trouble us again and again then We need to do something. We need to tell some elders, tell our parents, tell our teachers, whoever so that that person can’t hurt us again and again. But that person did something, something bad happened that we pray that Krishna you help me to accept it and then you’ll find that even if you remember that it’s like the wound is there but it’s a dry scar. It’ll memory will be there but the anger won’t come. So two things change the memory that you replay. Which memory? is remember good people who did some good thing good things that happened to you and when the memory of the bad thing comes that you know Krishna can bring some good out of it so Krishna help me to accept it help open me to see what good you’ll bring in the future and that way the memory won’t cause so much pain or anger.

Hare Krishna