After completing brahmachari training, how to overcome fear of entanglement while entering grihastha ashrama?

Question Sometimes when we get training In a base We feel that We are entangling And we don’t want to Get entangled At the same time we find that We are not suited for Brahmacharya Although we have got Brahmacharya training In the base So how do we move ahead We also want to preach But we feel that the ashram Has not much possibility of preaching So what should we do One of the specialties of Bhakti Is that it does not have one definition of success The ultimate definition of success Is that we want to love Krishna But within that there are many ways At higher level we have Universities Preach, build temples Like that There are so many definitions of success Within which are progressing towards that Ultimate definition of success So Now when we are in the Brahmacharya ashram When we have got Brahmacharya training We get a particular definition of success And If we decide to go to Maharashtra ashram The foundation of Brahmacharya training and discipline Is good But we have to Get a change definition of success Not in terms of Injecting the principles of Bhakti But understanding how the principles of Bhakti Are harmonizing In Maharashtra ashram Sometimes We end up Giving more importance to the ashram Than to the principles of Bhakti So rather than considering That Bhakti is universal We consider that actually It is the ashram that is all important And Bhakti is not determined by the ashram The ashram is determined by Bhakti So Bhakti is inclusive Now the specific ways In which we practice Bhakti In the Brahmacharya training Will most likely not be able to practice in Maharashtra That should not be seen as Necessarily Sliding down or weakness That is Just a necessary adjustment Prabhupada himself Did not live The same way for the 11 years That he was, not even 11 years Actually for a considerable number of years He did not live the same way That he was living when he was a Panipat star Can you imagine You know just In about 12-13 years Not even 15 years He was a single master Just about half a dozen or 11 times So that means In his heart he was trying to Go on so that he could share Krishna Bhakti And he could assist his future master in sharing Krishna Bhakti In a practical sense he was not directly associating much Although he was definitely doing service No doubt But it was in a different way In fact To make a provocative Statement According to According to some conceptions of What Practicing Bhakti means Especially with those in Brahmacharya training Now Prabhupada would have been considered to be a useless person He will come to the temple And then we will come to meet his Guru He would have been considered Obviously we are not comparing Hirasana with Prabhupada All that I am saying is that We should not Lock our conceptions of Bhakti to a particular framework So We need to get Guidance from Those Maharashtra devotees Who are mature and Who are practicing Bhakti For a good amount of time And who understand the dynamics of different ashrams So adjustment According to ashram should not be seen as a compromise It is a Different way of practicing It is a different definition of success For Sometimes Devotees who carry the Brahmacharya definition of success into the ashram They They make themselves visible They make their families visible And for especially what about The next generation Worst example of this Is where Children They are seen by some devotees Not as gifts of God But as products of Christ It is a horrible Way of looking at things And it is completely Actually Not in Non-chastity Not the way Prabhupada called their children They have entrusted Krishna into our care So We will need to Get proper darshan guidance By which we can Get a Proper definition of success In darshan And one of the easiest ways To make ourselves insecure and miserable Is to constantly associate With those Whose definition of success is different from what we are Perceiving If I am an author And if I associate constantly with A person who is a preacher In a preacher or a person who is a narrator I see a narrator surrounded by so many people So many people running around I can call everything So many counselors, so many devotees So there is a different definition of success For a So I need to associate With those who are the authors I say their joys, their struggles Their successes And they will say you know what So in bhakti I think it’s vital for us To associate properly And whenever we are pursuing a particular path We have the Right definition of success For that path or rather in the path Ashram, we have the right definition of Success of our ashram There are two elaborate classes I have given on this subject One was Confrontation Or Penetration Two modes of practicing bhakti Another was Bhagavad Gita Bhagavad Gita where it is Appreciating Different definitions of success in bhakti So If I find those helpful Suffice it to say that If we are going to go to a particular ashram It’s vital for us to understand what is the right definition of success In that ashram And associate with those who inspire us In moving towards that definition of success.