CC daily 61 – CCM 5.39-42 – Don’t let the cultural blind one to the spiritual

Thank you So here the Brahmanas family members Are expressing their Strong opposition Fierce opposition To the idea of their daughter Marrying The younger Brahmana So If you Is a lower caste A lower dynasty If you give your Daughter If you give your daughter to a lower caste So your dynasty will be destroyed And people will hear about it They will all make fun of you They will ridicule you So here we see That There is The whole system Of Culture Which When instead of focusing on Spiritual principles If it focuses too much on Material Considerations of What will people think of me Then That consideration becomes Higher Than the spiritual consideration So Now In today's In today's world you people may think that Why make such a big human cry about Which dynasty somebody belongs to when one is marrying And we may It may Oppose our egalitarian Notions Which are there today Now The Chetan Charita Amrit is focusing not so much on those egalitarian notions It is focused more on the Devotional principle The spiritual principle here But This is not so much a Criticism or a Criticism of Intracaste marriage alone Of mandatory intracaste marriage Or it is not a Recommendation For intracaste marriage But it is Focus for Spiritual For spiritual integrity When we understand that Out of devotional considerations If we've given a word to God Then we should fulfill it So what we'll see over here That is family members Don't think about it like that at all Think of things only in worldly From the point of view of worldly considerations People will all ridicule you So the Vipra said And thus in the holy place I have given my word Means something else How can I if I have given my word in the holy place How can I do anything else? Now this may happen that may happen I'll still give my daughter in marriage No matter if this happens or that happens So the Vipra is Talking about how I have to keep my word which I have given in the holy place And then Rather than focusing on the devotional principle Of honoring a word given in the holy place His relatives focus more on emotional manipulation And they respond Almost like by doing emotional blackmailing over here So Gyati means worldly people The relatives said We will abandon you We will no longer give you any consideration We will not give you any respect So then is My daughter and his wife and son said that Actually we will take poison You may say that this is an extreme thing That why take poison and kill oneself Now whether they would actually take poison or not Is not an important consideration here The point is that such was the emotional intensity With which the brahmanas word was opposed Such is the fervency Quite often this threat of killing oneself Is what is used by people to stop others From doing something which they just don't want them to do But this is quite a extreme step And what the willingness to take an extreme step reveals Is that or actually Even if they were willing or not to do such a thing The point that they were even verbalizing such a thing Indicates the fervency of the emotions that were involved And through this we can understand the gravity of the situation So the brahmana was emotionally constrained He just couldn't stick to his word And now the brahmana takes out what he feels is a trump card And he says He says that Now implied over here is He says you don't have to honor your word Because where is the fact that you have actually given your word He told them the whole narrative And now he emphasizes Retelling a particular point in the narrative that Actually I have spoken this in front of the deity And the younger brahmana has said that If required I'll summon the deity as a witness So he reminds them and he says that He will call the lord as a witness And then interestingly Eventually when the lord comes as a witness He will actually take my daughter at that time And what will happen Means either way I will be lost Because what you are trying to avoid That of the fact of this marriage with somebody who's in a slightly lower caste You don't want that to happen But that will anyway happen And I will also face the disgrace of not having kept the word So it is better if something is inevitable To do it honorably Than to be forced into a corner where one has to do it And do the same thing anyway later But then one doesn't even have any honor left at that time So he is pointing out that The deity will come as a witness And therefore better let me do it right now But sometimes it is far better to take a strategic retreat And do the right thing right away Rather than be forced to do the right thing later So evidence if it is stacked against us If we know that in a particular situation It's unlikely that we are going to succeed Then better to admit it right away And to retreat as gracefully as is possible So that's the point which he is going to argue over here.