Does positive thinking mean that we shouldn’t think about the past – then how will we learn from it?
Any other questions? so, does positive thinking mean that we shouldn't at all think about the past and how can we learn from the past? yes, there is a difference between learning from the past and living in the past some people when something has gone wrong in their life their mind goes like in a perpetual auto replay mode this happened why did this happen? why did I do like that? why did he do like that? why did she speak like that? why did it have to happen like that? it just goes on and on and on and that is Vishad that is just lamentation, moroseness that is of no use so basically, the difference between living in the past and learning from the past is whether we are in control of our mind or our mind is in control of us so if I am in control of my mind, I take my mind to the past, look at the situation and learn from it, but if my mind is in control, it just takes me to the past and keeps me there so therefore it is important to try to learn, but sometimes if the incident, we are too close to the incident, that just happened at that time, we are too emotionally involved in it, it is very difficult to learn anything from that situation so at that time, it might just be the best thing to get a distance to come to a distance to distance ourselves emotionally so that we at least calm ourselves down and in say, somebody is driving without brakes, that is a very obvious lesson to learn and in real life, sometimes problems are so complex that the lesson to learn also is not very easy and sometimes you just, you know maybe should I have done like this, maybe he should have done like this, maybe she should have done like this and sometimes, you know, we just get so consumed in the past that we just get more confused we just get more irritated so yes, we should try to learn from the past but if thinking about the past is only making us more depressed more disheartened sometimes the best thing that we can learn from the past is that there is nothing to learn what I am saying is, sometimes the situation is just not clear now many times why something happened we may realize after 10 years okay, this happened like this it was for my good so we use our God given intelligence try to learn from it but we don't make at that time learning the primary lesson the primary lesson is to get safe, to calm ourselves down, to make sure that we are moving forward in our life and then, after that when we are calm enough, when things are clear enough then we can learn valuable lessons from that okay, thank you yeah.