Hold your plans lightly, not tightly

Hold your plans lightly, not tightly
[Sunday feast class at ISKCON, Towaco, USA]

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Jai Shreela Prabhupada ki I will speak on the topic of hold your plans lightly, not tightly. I will speak on three plans, three parts.
How, what the purpose of our plan is. How our plans are meant to serve Krishna. And how we need to surrender our plans to Krishna.
So let’s look at the first point. For all of us, we human beings have this capacity to shape reality according to our plans and intentions. So I am here and reality is here.
Say for example a person wants, now many of you are aspiring to help in this glorious inter-temporal project. So the idea is that there is a place and the reality right now is simply a land. But we are here.
And we want to shape reality in a particular way. So our plans can help us to shape reality. So reality is here, we are here and our plan is from here to here to shape the reality.
And making plans and then executing those plans is a way in which we human beings can work in an organised way. Now non-human beings, animals cannot make conscious plans. Animals can make complex artistic nests or abodes for themselves.
But it’s not a conscious plan, it’s a programmed instinct. We human beings can make conscious plans and act accordingly. However, sometimes, say we are here, the reality is here, the plan is here.
Sometimes what happens is, the reality goes completely in a different direction. So what happens is, say we are here, we are here, the plan is here and the reality goes here. So at that time, the plan starts coming in the way of our dealing with reality.
To give an example, suppose somebody wants to learn rowing. And so they go to a rowing course and they learn rowing and they have a dream. They call all their friends and their relatives and in front of them they row smoothly.
And the boat is zoomed forward and everybody takes photos and it is on their Facebook page. Everybody is applauded, oh how nicely you row. And they have this whole movie inside their mind.
And then they get into the boat and they start rowing. And when they start rowing, suddenly a monster wave comes from nowhere. And the next moment, they have no oars in their hands and there is no boat below them.
They are in the water. Now if they keep rowing, there is no boat and no oars. If they keep rowing, what will happen? They will drown.
So at that time, they need to immediately recalibrate. Oh, what happened? I have to deal with the reality. The reality, however unpalatable it is, it is what it is.
So I have to swim and get back to the course. Oh, but what about my plan? Okay, you wanted to do it, but reality has turned against you. So let go.
If we become too attached to our plans, if we hold on to our plans too tightly, the result is that the plans, instead of helping us shape reality, the plans start obstructing our ability to face reality. So if I am here, if I were here and the plan is here and the reality is here, the plan can help me to shape reality. But if instead I am here now, the reality is here and the plan has gone somewhere else completely.
So if I am dealing with the plan, oh, why does it not happen, why does it not happen, why does it not happen, then I can’t deal with the reality. So sometimes life is turned in such a way that our plans go for a toss. When that happens, that doesn’t necessarily mean that everything is lost.
But at that particular point, we need to recalibrate. Oh, how do I deal with the situationality? So plans can either help us to deal with reality, to shape reality, or plans can come in the way of dealing with reality. And we see in the Ramayana, we just had Ram Dhammi a few weeks ago.
So in the Ramayana, what happens? Ram is about to become the king. The prince Raiji will become the king. And for no fault of his, suddenly he is sent out of the kingdom to the forest with absolutely nothing.
Exile is a very brutal punishment. It’s just one level below the worst punishment, execution. In execution, everything including life itself is taken away.
In exile, everything except one life is taken away. So you just go in the forest with nothing. It’s inconceivable actually for most of us.
Probably the nearest we might come to appreciating exile is if some of us have a visa in America and the visa is not extended. We have to leave the country. But I have a job, I have a life, I have my social circle, I have my career over here.
But we have to go. But even that is nowhere near Ram’s condition. Because we have our home country, we have our family there, we have a place over there.
And even if the visa is not extended, we still have financial resources, social resources. So we have to go back home. But Ram, he had nothing with him at all.
How does one process a situation like that? Generally, to be accepted, we are unable to face reality. To that extent, we start becoming mentally imbalanced. Madness is not just a disease.
When you say somebody is mad, now what does that mean? You could say sometimes it’s like a mental disorder. But what does it mean? All of us have a movie going on inside our mind. And in that movie, we have dreams, we have ambitions, we have plans, we have aspirations.
And so our plan, it exists in the mind. And then from there, we try to bring it into reality. So, if we get more caught in the mind than with the world, then we start getting disconnected.
Disconnected, disoriented. Now cricket season is coming up, the IPL is going on, the World Cup is going to come. So, sometimes you might see some young people, especially in India, some young men are walking along the road and suddenly, they imagine that they are the next Virat Kohli hitting a bat.
And, now you look around, there is no bat, there is no ball, there is no match. But the match is going on in their head, in their mind. And so they are responding not to the physical reality, but the mental reality.
So, it happens to, sometimes you might just, some people start talking with themselves. Who is talking with themselves? Oh, I got something to say. So, to the extent a person starts connecting more and more with only their own mind.
Now the mind is a connection by which you can connect with the world outside. In the least way, you can connect with the world outside. But if you start connecting only with the mind and not with the world, that is where a person starts going towards the world.
So, insanity is not a state, but it is a spectrum. And to some extent, everybody has a certain level of insanity. And it is not necessarily always a bad thing.
Because if anybody has a visionary, they have strong beliefs. And then they work to implement those beliefs. But the fact is, that if we live only in our head, only with the plan, the dream, the movie, and not with the world, then we will become disoriented.
So, if we hold on to the plan very tightly, say for example, now this is the case. Now, imagine in this way a screen on which there is some image of what I want to see. Maybe, say, the way I want my family to be, the way I want my career to be, the way I want people around me to be, or even the way I want myself to be in future.
This is the image. Now, I can have this, I can look at it, and I can look at the world. And I can think, how can I make this? Or how can I make this? But the closer and closer and closer I bring it here, if I bring it like this, then I can’t see anything except this.
And this is the result of holding on to plans too tightly. If we hold on to plans too tightly, we become blind to reality. Like if somebody has no plans at all, what happens? If we don’t have a plan, then we end up becoming servants of those who have a plan.
So, this is also not bad if that person is benevolent, if that person is visionary. Then we work and we help them build out a plan. That’s good.
But the thing is, excessive attachment to plans can blind us to reality. So, we need to hold on to our plans lightly, not tightly. The first part I want to make is that our plans are meant to help us shape reality, not obstruct our perception of reality.
So, now when we are practising bhakti, when we are trying to connect ourselves with Krishna, connect others with Krishna, at that time, what is the role of plans? So, we see that Sri Prabhupada is a great example for that. At the age of nearly 70, all alone, he came from India to America, with nothing except 40 rupees. And with no money, he came.
Now, did he have a plan? Did he literally know whom I want to meet here, and I want to talk to Sri, and I want to do this? There is a difference between a plan and a purpose. Purpose is ultimately what you want to achieve. It’s like the direction in which I want to go.
The plan is the path I am going to take to that direction. It’s the path in that direction. So, we need to be focused more on our purpose than on our plan.
Just like say, just now I came from New York to this programme. So, if you use Google Maps, Google Maps might say, Okay, this path, it takes 55 minutes. This path, 1 hour 5 minutes.
This path, 1 hour 15 minutes. Okay, now I am going to choose the path which takes 55 minutes. The purpose is to get here.
Now, the plan is to get here in 55 minutes. But sometimes, there might be traffic or there might be an accident. And suddenly, 55 minutes might change to 1 hour 55 minutes.
Then, I need to break out. There is no other way. So, there is a plan and there is a purpose.
It will become too attached to the plan. Then, not only sometimes, some roads will get blocked. And this, we might spend the rest of our life trying to remove the blockage from the road.
And it might not succeed. So, our focus needs to be more on the purpose. So, purpose is, what am I trying to do? Okay, I want to serve Krishna.
I want to help others connect with Krishna and serve Krishna. We all want to, we are all souls on a multilayered journey of spiritual evolution. We are all meant to evolve in our devotion to Krishna.
And as we are moving towards Krishna, we also want to make a contribution in the world, in whatever way we can, according to our talents, according to our positions, according to our resources. So, I am going to tell you a few examples. So, just as the world moves towards the ocean, similarly, it says, we all are moving towards the ocean.
Now, what is that ocean? That ocean is ultimately God. And our consciousness is meant to flow towards it. Now, Vedanta Desikha is a prominent commentator in the Sri Vaishnava Sampradaya.
And he writes on this verse that, ultimately, in the end of life, everybody is going to die. However we live, as materialists or spiritualists, whatever. But a spiritualist life is like a river flowing.
A river will flow to the ocean, but while flowing to the ocean, the river will irrigate all the land around it. Similarly, when we move spiritually, we will go towards God. But the goal is not just to go towards God.
While going towards God, we also want to contribute. We also want to connect others with God. We also want to use their God-given talents in serving God.
Talents, resources, interest, gifts, connections, whatever we have. This is a river that keeps moving towards the ocean. And the river is a very good example because the river is again not attached to a path.
There is a particular path and there is a blockage. And the river will concentrate above, below, around, or eventually it will flow over again. Similarly, our consciousness is meant to move towards it.
So we need to focus more on the purpose than on the plan. The plan is important, but important is considering the purpose. Now the purpose is that we want to move closer to Krishna.
We want to take others closer to Krishna. And whatever gifts Krishna has given us, we want to use them for doing good in the world. So we have this big picture to it.
This is the purpose. Then we see that my plan is a subset of Krishna’s plan. Sometimes it is said that if you want to make Krishna laugh, tell him your plans.
Well, you have to see, this is actually not a practical statement. This is a statement by an American comedian. You want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.
What it means and what it does not mean. What it means is that sometimes we think that we have far greater capacity to control things than what we actually have. And because of that, we imagine, I do this, I do that, I do that.
But our capacity to control is so tiny. We think I will shape the whole world. But then we have an itch on our back, we can’t even reach that.
So if we think I want to control a big thing, that is how, let’s imagine that I am a big controller. That is what can make God laugh. But at the same time, what it does not mean is that we don’t make plans.
Actually, planning is an indication of seriousness. When we don’t have the seriousness, we plan about it. So we plan with, primarily to express the seriousness of our intent to Krishna.
I think the seriousness is what I have to do. About 10 years ago, 25 years ago when I started speaking for Krishna in public, so Sr. Devotee gave me some guidelines about how to speak for Krishna in public. The first guideline was depend on Krishna.
In brackets, depend on Krishna for only after you have prepared. That means if I am going to take the service of speaking for Krishna seriously, I have to prepare what I am going to say. At the same time, it will depend on Krishna.
So the point here is planning indicates seriousness. And we plan in a mood of seriousness. So our purpose is to connect with Krishna and serve Krishna.
And our plan is seriousness. So then, the first point here said, hold on to your plans lightly, not tightly. How can we implement that? That’s what I am talking about in the third part.
If we understand that planning is part of the seriousness of Krishna. And if the plan, I become so attached to it, and the plan doesn’t work. Then I start becoming bitter, I start becoming resentful.
I start becoming angry. And then my consciousness is no longer devotional. Even if I get my plan executed, how am I going to keep Krishna? How am I going to go closer to Krishna? So our plan is a service to Krishna.
But most important service to Krishna is our consciousness. It will become too attached to the plan. And then that attachment, generally if something doesn’t work, we become angry.
Anger can be expressed in different ways. Anger is usually expressed towards other people. And sometimes we are angry with one person, but we express the anger towards someone else.
And that person, he speaks something which is like a 1% issue, and our reaction is 10,000. What did I do? Or, now there is another way of expressing anger, is towards oneself. Depression, inferiority complex, and ultimately suicide.
These are all expressions of anger towards oneself. This is what I wanted to do, I can’t do it. I have worked with plenty of people.
So, of course, the ultimately destructive form of anger is anger towards God. Now, Bhaktivinoda Thakur says, Bhaktivinoda Thakur, the guru of Shatrughna Pali says, becoming angry at destiny is, angry at fate, at destiny, at God, that is like spitting in the sky. What happens? The spit will come on our faces.
So, it does no good. So, basically, when we hold on to the plan too tightly and it is not working, we become angry. Either towards others, or towards ourselves, or towards God.
And that anger goes to the darkness, to the dead man. And then our consciousness no longer remains in motion. So, our plan should not become so important for us that our consciousness doesn’t matter.
Then it is becoming a destructive action. That’s the second point. In bhakti we plan as a destructive action.
And that’s why destructive attitude is in it. The third point is that when our plan is not working, that means Krishna has some difficulty. In nature, Krishna often breaks things to make them better.
If you look at clouds, the clouds may look very beautiful in the sky. But the clouds need to be broken for rains to come. As Parjanya Vanya symbol, where the rains wet all the leaves of the tree.
Now, if you look from the sky, the ground may look very beautiful. But if you want to do irrigation, you need to plough. Plough means when you break the ground.
Then eventually the grains come. Now, when the grains grow, the crops look very attractive. They all have to be cut.
Then eventually you break the grains out also. The grains have to be broken. So that it looks better.
And then the floor is used to make food. Sometimes there are some special occasions when some devotees serve food. The plate in itself is made in such an artistic way.
Each item is placed so beautifully. Sometimes eating that food seems like committing violence to that. That is so artistic.
But unless you eat it, however you must eat it. So, in general, if you look at the nature, that nature breaks things to make them better. And the same thing that might be a protection at one stage can become an obstruction at another stage.
When a bird gives birth to a baby, the baby is born inside what? An egg. Now, the egg actually protects the baby. The way the aquarium species grows is that if the babies are born naturally into the world, like when mammals are born, they will not fall.
But for the birth of a baby, the shell is a necessary protection. But as the baby grows, then the shell which is the protector becomes the obstruction. And in the beginning it is a great effort for the baby bird’s head.
And then you see a head. Then a crack appears. Then a small part of a feather or a wing of the bird comes out.
And then that part of the wing gets trapped between the two edges of the shell. And even on the screen, the baby bird is screaming in pain inside. Keep on pushing, keep on pushing, keep on pushing.
And eventually, the bird breaks. The shell then comes out. So, the point is, the plan we have is a shell.
And sometimes the plan rises, but sometimes the plan obstructs. And the plan we need to make is a shell. What does it mean? So then how do we move on at such a time? If we had a particular plan and the plan is broken, we need some guide out there.
That is where our philosophy can come into picture. Our plan is like a streetlight or a single streetlight. It does not go along a path.
And the plan is like a single streetlight. It shows this is the way I am going to go. Sometimes the streetlight just goes.
But what do I do? The road is dark, I can’t see anything. What do I do? So we might for a few moments curse and rant and feel sorry for ourselves. But what do you do after that? Two kinds of people do it.
Some people are wise. And some are stupid. So those who are otherwise, they keep complaining, they keep ranting, they keep feeling sorry for themselves.
And in the darkness they make their own life miserable. But those who are wise, they will turn on the streetlight. They go to the streetlight.
The flashlight cannot help us in the streetlight. But the flashlight can show us the wrong steps. And you take your own step ahead, and the flashlight will show you the next step.
You move the next step ahead, and the flashlight will show you the next step. So the flashlight is our hurtless attitude. Hurtless attitude means, at the most essential level, hurtless attitude means simply the question, How can I solve this? When something unexpected, something undesired happens, at that time the first question that comes in our mind, Why? Why is this happening? Why is this person doing like this? Why is this happening like this? Why? Why? Why? When possible, you can try to find a logical answer for the why question.
Sometimes, the why question just isn’t helping. So I’m looking to give you an idea, and it’s just to make us more confused, more vulnerable, more resentful. For some people, they have what is called paralysis by narcissism.
I was confused earlier. Now, I’m not so confused. So, what happens is that, if you understand this point that, I will not give you the why question, if it is not giving me an answer, then put it aside.
Why do people behave in a particular way? We don’t know. I told Ram, Lakshman is the, so I talk about his wife and other wives. So, of course, Lakshman is a drama in his character.
But, Lakshman at that time is in a typical angry environment. Yes. How dare the atrocity happen to you, Ram? What wrong have you ever done to anyone? It is so angry that before I was getting angry with Dashrath.
You see, Dashrath has become blinded by lust for his young-ass queen. And that’s why he has done this. We should rebel against the king.
I understand, Ram. So, I disagree with you. We should not be doing this.
We are compelled by the vow. But Ram, we never heard of this vow till now. So, where does this vow come from? Because she did it earlier.
She was always formidable and manly about it. Damn! Lakshman is angry. We have to find someone to be angry about.
What is he angry about? She is so cruel. She pretended to love you, but see how she has turned out to be. Do you remember how her love was? She loved me just like my mother Kaushalya.
Her love for me was just like the flow of the Ganga river. Pure, seamlessly flowing. Lakshman is still angry.
That’s what I don’t understand. How did the Ganga dry up in one night? Ram, it’s all this. Normally, we try to find the cause of the conflict.
A leads to B. But if A is a small cause and B is a big reaction, it’s just not proportional. Why is it happening? That means it’s not just A and B. Ram says, Lakshman is still angry. Lakshman is actually one of the cowards who accepts industrial work.
He knows what it is to do. So, then why is he angry? I am concerned about what he is doing. As a duty to my father, I was ready to accept the throne.
As a duty to my father, now I accept the throne. So, this brings us again to the point of serious attitude. Ram goes into serious attitude.
So, when you have this serious attitude, then things are going wrong. Why is this happening? This is the main question. So, my question, is not understanding the question.
How can you save me now? Let’s focus on the nature of this game. Let me act in a way that doesn’t lead to conflict. So, when some big things have gone wrong in our life, to think about the long term future is very disorienting.
It just doesn’t work at that time. There are too many variables over there. So, the best during unmanageably bad times, it’s best to reuse our frame of reference to manageable units of time.
So, think in terms of what will happen after one year, what will happen after, what will happen after ten years, we have certainly diagnosed some issues. What will happen after ten years, what will happen after one year, conflict, there are too many variables. Focus on the short term.
Short term means what? Divide it to manageable units of time. What can I do in a country, so that I don’t get conflict? What can I do in the next one day, so that on one side I don’t get conflict, let me test it. What is attitude? I don’t know what is going to happen in the country, but what makes a country like a country? There is a flurry of activity.
So, when the dark times come, we need a strategy. We need a strategy. Krishna has a strategy.
If we hold on to the strategy of Krishna, then the dark times are coming. But they may seem, when we are in the last stage, they may seem like a dungeon. They want to happen in the dark, but it is not a dungeon.
It is a tunnel. And the tunnel can change. And we are still waiting for that.
And then we will find that whatever happens, our plan was broken, but Krishna has changed it. And when that bigger plan emerges, you will see that what went wrong is a part, or the necessary part, of something more right to do. That is the important thing that we need to do.
If we hold on to our plan, life is not right. When we do this, bad things happen in life. But Krishna is so expert that he can bring good things out of the darkness.
He can make experience happen, bring good out of the darkness. When we keep that vision, when we look at our strategic plan, look at Krishna, and try to continue that strategy, Krishna will bring us to a better place. Not only what we were in the past, but much more than what we are in the present.
And that is Krishna’s master plan. So, when we open our eyes to Krishna, magic is also eradicated. And Krishna will be there.
And nothing should affect us, or waste our Krishna. Nothing tingles, even our fingers, don’t tingle. Why? Because we don’t make them work by resentment and by negativity.
But we do our part, even when things are eradicated. Krishna will take care of the world. Clean the part of the part, and make the whole, and keep the whole.
So, I summarise what I spoke today. Spoke on the topic of Hold your plans lightly, not tight. Three points.
First is, what is the role of plans in our life? Plans help us to shape reality in a better way, between us and our reality as a plan. But sometimes, reality becomes so different, that the plans reality are in the opposite direction. That we want to grow, but a wave means that there are no oars, and no boat.
If we are too attached to our plans, then that can blind us to within reality. So, infamity can happen when we become so attached to the plan that we start denying the reality. So, it’s not a secret subject.
So, we need to hold our plans lightly so that we don’t get blinded by the plan. And then, in Bhakti, we plan as a certain way. But our most important service is to have a consciousness that is positive, that is devotional.
As we become too attached to our plans, and the plan doesn’t work, we become resentful, cynical, bitter. And then our consciousness, in the name of doing service to Krishna, our consciousness becomes a blessing to Krishna. At that time, what do we do? We have to be focused on our service attitude and let Krishna’s plan work.
So, other than being attached to a plan, we are attached to the purpose. The purpose is to serve Krishna and to help others connect with Krishna using whatever ability we have. So, river is more attached to going to the ocean than a particular path that we go in the ocean.
And if there is a block, then our moving forward is service attitude. So, plan, purpose, and service attitude. So, when some plan goes wrong, we could ask Krishna, why, why, why, why? And that loneliness leads the question to how? How can I save Krishna? And when the streetlights go, how does the question become the question? And during unmanageably bad times, if we start thinking about the long term future, there are so many variables that we will get confused and start.
Because we use the working stream of the earth to manage the universe. One hour, one day, let me move forward, let me move forward. And Krishna often breaks things to make them break.
There is cloud, ground, grains, food, bird in a shell. That is protecting at one time and restricting at another time. So, we need to let Krishna’s plan act by maintaining our own attitude.
So, we play the part of our path, Krishna will play, Krishna will be the whole, and we care for all. Thank you very much. Pray.
Any one quick question? Okay. Now, Okay. Okay.
So, to focus on the present, what should we focus? Yeah. Yeah, okay. Okay.
So, who, what, when, what, how? What should we focus on? Now, during, when we are having this disturbing time, the plan is disrupted. See, the whole idea is that we need to Okay. In some questions, some, it doesn’t help.
And life is like a war against the, illusionary, one of my friends is in doing HIV research. One of the reasons why HIV is so difficult to cure is because it keeps mutating. So, in life, you cannot go into one formula.
Okay. This question I asked, I’ll get answered, and I’ll move on. So, the Bhagavad Gita actually begins when Arjuna is disoriented, What to do? So we all have these functional roles in life.
Say A, you may have a role as a mother, you may have a role as a professional, you may have a role as a daughter, you may have a role as a husband, you may have a role as a wife, you may have a role as a sister, whatever. You all have different roles. Sometimes these roles come in different directions.
So beyond our functional roles, so below our functional roles, foundational to them is our foundational identity. And that is we are souls who are part of this. So understand to the extent we identify ourselves with our roles, to that extent the frustration of our plans will be unbearable for us.
If my whole sense of self-worth comes from the fact that I was offered a job, and then I lose my job, then who am I? I just not used to being happy. So we need to go foundationally, who am I? I am a soul in the power of Krishna. My job is a self-executioner.
My family roles are self-executioner. So all these roles that we have, they are like channels by which the river of our consciousness is meant to move towards Krishna. So if we reduce that river to only one channel, if I identify myself by one role alone, say if I identify myself as a speaker, and tomorrow I lose my voice, then what should I do? Okay, I am a speaker, but speaking is a different situation.
So if I can’t self-execute, I can’t self-execute. So if we have that fundamental understanding of our identity, who am I? I am a soul by which Krishna conducts my role. Then how is it? Okay, you throw in the box, I can move.
So it’s a who question comes first, then the how question. And that will help our consciousness to move on. Yes, yes, yes.
Yes, yes. So you answered very nicely. Who was why? So let me double you gently.
Double you gently for a moment. So we think of… If you think that… So I need to be kind of… Or you can think of… It’s a good question. So if a particular plan is obstructed, then when do we decide that I keep pushing on with this plan? Because Krishna says to me, or I should keep to some other plan.
Yeah, I think that requires pragmatic intelligence. I was just two weeks ago in Stanford. I gave a talk over there.
And after that one American lady, she came up to me and started talking to me. She said, her daughter has been for 12 years in Stanford, changing her major every year. To find out which is her calling in life.
Now, in the first year, 12 years you’re going on. Yeah, it’s good to try to find out one’s calling. But life is not going to wait till we find our calling.
So sometimes, a sub-optimal plan is better for moving on than waiting for the optimal plan to find your calling. So what I mean by that is, we cannot let ourselves be blocked. We have to keep moving.
And we can use our own God-given intelligence to decide what is a reasonable effort. If a particular blockage is there, I want to move on with it. But, okay, how much is a reasonable effort? And you see, Prabhupada, initially he started the League of Devotees.
That time he had got a place and he inaugurated that as the International Headquarters of the League of Devotees. But then there was a whole scurry against him. A whole conspiracy and he was told to leave.
But Prabhupada had the land deed with him and he could have fought. But he decided it’s not worth it. His reasoning was that the people there were more pious than spiritual.
He also said Jhansi was not a very big city and he felt it’s not worth it. But then something similar happened in Mumbai. He had got a land and the person who sold the land, he took the money and he did not look into the paper shop.
Prabhupada, I would rather die than let this person cheat me of this transaction. So that’s that. So, broadly speaking, when things go wrong, we have three alternatives.
I call them tolerate, mitigate or imitate. They will be extremely cold in a particular place. And that’s when we have got a job.
Now what do we do? That’s when we have got a job, we tolerate it. But you can’t tolerate it. You are here, you mitigate it.
You get nice clothing, get warm clothes, go home in your car, have proper eating. You do it. But if you can’t, you mitigate it.
So all three are viable. Sometimes, okay, as long as I am able to move forward in the purpose, this is a tolerable relationship. But this is going beyond that, I will mitigate it.
Or sometimes you think, I am getting too much. Walking away is different from running away. When you immigrate, it’s not because of frustration.
It’s that, okay, I have better things in my life than to keep fighting. So again, if we have focused on our purpose, then we will ourselves get the intelligence of how much to spend on a particular plan. The dynamic is still open.
It’s good to find your calling. But if you spend 12 years shifting the first year of May, you mitigate it. So we stay focused on the purpose and look at our options.
We can answer, this is a reasonable amount of effort. And within this much effort, it works out. I have shown Krishna that this is what I can do.
I have done it. If it’s not working, then let it go. Maybe Krishna wants.
But sometimes in the same situation, we may think that Krishna is testing my determination. But who knows, Krishna is testing my detachment. So we can miswrite a reasonable amount of effort and if it doesn’t work, let go.
Thank you.