How can we sense better how a person is going to behave and prepare our response better?

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spirituality to intentional spirituality.
With respect to emotions, they consume us so much, we can’t see what is right in front of us. If that happens sometimes, we don’t see the signs of what is wrong or what is going wrong. With respect to physical health, there are tests that can be done by which we can divide.
The RBC count has gone down, this has gone down. With respect to emotions, we can’t really count. We may count some brain signals but we can’t count emotions.
Just like there is a fog inside us, which can cloud us, sometimes there is a fog in people, which clouds them. How they behave, we can’t know. But at least if we ourselves come in clear, then our capacity to anticipate or respond when something goes wrong, it is much faster.
Life has two aspects, one is being reflective and the other is being reflexive. Reflexive is we act poly-reflective, instantly. So if I find that something is stabbing me in the back, I just move aside, that’s a reflex.
So that is reflexive. You don’t even think about it, you just act instantly. And there is reflective.
That’s when we think deeply and then we make an action. At one level, these two are separate. In fact, they are opposite.
A person who is reflective will be a slow mover. They will slowly, think deeply and act. But actually, the two can be symbiotic also.
The more reflective we are, then the better our reflexes also become. Because if they are reflective, we actually are clear internally. We are calm internally.
When we see something going wrong, then our reflexes swing into acting faster. So I think spirituality is more about the reflective side. That we develop our inner clarity more and more.
Then we can respond to other, whatever speeches come, faster. When it is needed. Now with respect to experience, as I said, the inner clarity is when it comes to our reflection.
By outer experience, we also come to know that things can happen like this. Things can’t happen like that. Just like there are certain medicines, we don’t keep them in the range of children.
We don’t know what they will do. By experience, we all come to know that maybe in a particular area where anything goes wrong, we don’t keep any obvious advice. They can cause harm to themselves.
They can cause harm to others. That experience will help us to gradually prevent triggers. Triggers which either agitate them or triggers that are further used to cause harm.
I would say probably in that case, that communication that had been more proper, maybe the response might not have been. Ultimately, I feel that life is too precious to be wasted in doing post-mortem operations. Sometimes things just happen.
Maybe I could have done this. Maybe I could have done that. But it’s over now.
We can learn something from the past and move forward. Sometimes the mind gets caught in the past. Instead of learning from the past, we are lamenting about the past.
It’s stuck in the past. I would say something radical. Sometimes the best thing you can learn from the past is to stop trying to learn anything.
Especially when you get too close to something that has happened. It has just happened. At that time, you are not in a position to learn anything.
Emotions are too high. The agitation is too much. At that time, the best thing you could do is to put it aside and move on.
Sometimes we all talk about learning from experience. But I think one part of learning from experience is learning when not to try to learn. The best thing I can do in this situation is not to think about it.
I move on and with the distance and detachment that comes by the passage of time. Then we can look back and learn better. Sometimes things happen.
Bad things happen. It’s better to distance ourselves and move on with life and later on we can learn and develop our reflexes.