How much does the mind affect problems in astrologically compatible relationships?
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So if we are performing marriages, how important is the horoscope? And if the horoscope is to be matched, then how much is the role of the mind within relationships where horoscopes are matching also? Or they are not matching? Astrology is based on an understanding that the events in our life they are often shaped by influences beyond what we perceive in this world. We all have done some karma in the past. And those reactions are stored.
And they will come to us at different times in our life. And astrology gives us something like a weather forecast. These events are going to happen in our life.
So it gives us a broad guideline about what is going to happen. It doesn’t control our life. It doesn’t define our life.
But it just defines roughly what is the kind of situation we are going to encounter in our life’s journey. Of course this also depends on whether the astrologer is competent. And today many astrologers they are into it for business.
And that’s why we have to be careful. It is not that we have to consult astrologers for everything. Every small thing in life.
And we should become more dependent on the astrologer than we are on Krishna. Ultimately astrologers are controlled by Krishna. Astrologers are controlled by Krishna who is the lord of everyone.
So with respect to marriages and the astrological charts can give us a broad understanding of compatibility and incompatibility. It’s not that just because the astrological charts are matching that does not necessarily mean that we are very smooth in this situation. It is a predictor of reasonable compatibility.
It’s just like the road is good but just because the road is good does not necessarily mean the ride is going to be smooth. The road may be good but if the driver goes to sleep on the road there is going to be an accident. If the driver drinks on the road there is going to be an accident.
So it’s not that just because two people are compatible that means automatically the relationship is going to run. Both have to be sensitive both have to be respectful both have to be properly dealing with each other as responsible, caring human beings. So this is one factor which is conducive to good relationships.
At the same time and it’s not necessarily that just because the astrological charts are incompatible that necessarily means that the relationship is going to be doomed. It’s going to make things difficult. But still if they are persistent, they may still be able to make a good life.
Like sometimes I am telling it will be very difficult but still the driver is still going to pursue the road. So we can take astrology as one guide in our relationships but we shouldn’t let it alone define relationships. What should not be done is if we are having a problem in the relationship already there is a problem in the relationship then you go to find an astrologer who says this relationship is not going to work and then use that as justification for breaking the relationship.
Then it’s rather than taking astrology as a guide we use astrology as a rationalization. That means I want to do what I want to do and I look for an astrologer who tells me to do what I want to do. Then it becomes a big mess.
So as devotees we can take astrology as a guidance but there is no need to make that the sole guide as the primary guide. It alone is a guarantor of success or it alone is a determiner of failure. After that also other factors do matter.
And as far as the mind is concerned again I would say that the mind is what we all have to manage. And the way we manage our mind will determine how our relationship works out. The mind is like a machine.
So if I have a car I may have the best car in the world but if I don’t take care of the car the car will be spoiled. So like that I have a mind and I need to learn how to take care of it. If I let the mind go out of control, if I don’t manage the mind, it’s going to make a mess of things.
So even in the best of relationships the mind can make a mess of things. And even in the worst of relationships if the mind is in control things can become better. But one factor would be that when it said astrologically two people are incompatible one part of it could also be the mind itself is incompatible.
It’s just like when two people’s mind is incompatible, it’s like two people are talking in two different languages. They just don’t understand. Then they have to make a special effort to understand how the mind thinks or how the other person thinks.
So more effort is required in that case. So whatever be the compatibility or incompatibility managing the mind is important for minimizing whatever inevitable friction is there. Does it answer your question? Can I ask a supplementary question?