If someone has been betrayed repeatedly and has become cynical, how can they recover?

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so somebody because of naivety and betray and disappointment has gone towards cynicism can they come back and how easy is it to come back to trusting in general the principle is that change doesn’t take place as long as the prize of changing seems to be more than the prize of staying where I am change doesn’t take place as long as the prize of changing seems to be more than the prize of staying where we are so everything takes a price if I am cynical that also takes a price and the prize of cynicism is loneliness so generally to some extent especially if we are around people who at least there are some examples of good working relationships among people around us I would also like to have a relationship like that with someone but if everyone around us is lonely and isolated I saw a car bumper the more I get to know people the more I love my dog having pets some devotees are like why do you have pets but the point here is that having a pet it’s not a disease it’s a symptom of the disease if somebody is coughing why do you cough so much it’s so much noise there is no use criticizing the symptom of the disease you have to cure the disease so if somebody’s attachment is going in some unhealthy direction then there is not much point in criticizing that symptom to address the root so if people see some functional relationships around them somewhere I would also like to have that kind of relationship otherwise they just stay where they are because what happens is the price if everybody is lonely then we think that is the way it is with everyone and then the price of staying up there doesn’t seem too much but when we are around people who have good bonding we say no I am losing all that much so then what happens then we become a little bit more open so that’s basically rather than rather than forcing someone to come out of their shell we can actually help them see what exists outside the shell what of riches exists outside the shell and if people see that then gradually they start taking steps forward it will always be an incremental process and there has to be a lot of caution required but it’s definitely possible the key thing would be that the person feels the price of loneliness unfortunately in today’s world people can get into social media and they can have pseudo relationships so it is you feel oh I have so many friends on facebook I have so many this so many that now how many of them now the social media connections can be helpful to enhance or facilitate real connections it’s ok I want to meet with someone but when can I meet how can we meet all the logistics we can arrange some basic contacts we can have but the social media connections cannot replace real connections and it’s always easier to have 100 superficial relationships than one deep relationship because what happens is in 100 superficial relationships we are not exposing ourselves in one deep relationship we have to lower our guard so it’s very easy many people they go out on the streets and they smile to everyone they are polite and if they come back home and snap it all the time why is that the stranger on the street you never see them again but you are polite with them and people you are going to live with all your life are so rude and curt and so brutish with them that’s because what has happened is that it’s always easy to be our best in a superficial relationship so with the stranger we don’t have much interaction so it doesn’t cost us much to be polite but the person with whom we are living constantly there is so much baggage that is there within us because of the past whatever has happened so it becomes much more difficult but we have to overall recognize the importance of relationships and then the desire for change will come up did you answer the question?