If we feel fear about losing our loved ones how can we overcome that fear?

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so if we have the fear of say losing our relatives or our friends how can we overcome that fear fear is a natural reaction to uncertainty and danger and fear is also protective you know if a child is looking out of a window peering out and the child is fearless the mother will become fearful its a dangerous thing actually when we look down from a high height we ourselves feel fear so fear is desirable what is not desirable is fearfulness the difference fear is an emotion just as we have say I was sitting on this chair and there is a nail on this chair and the nail pierces my body I immediately get up that pain protects me from further pain so just as that pain is a protector for the body fear is a protector also at the psychological level so fear warns us about the presence of danger and that sense it protects us but when we move from fear to fearfulness fearfulness means we are full of fear constantly fearing only then that is where it becomes a problem so how do we avoid this differentiate so if there is danger there has to be concern if I am driving on a stormy day on slippery roads amidst rain and I start driving at super fast speed I should be fearful there can be accident let me drive slowly but if I am driving on normal road I constantly start thinking what if an accident happens what if that happens what if my brake fails what if my tyre comes off what if the opposite driver is a drunkard I will become paranoid by that so now we need to use our intelligence to differentiate between possibility and probability possibility anything is possible right now while I am sitting the roof can cave in and we all can die it is possible but is it probable no the houses stayed for many such houses are there the houses have been there for a long time and houses don’t cave in they are well constructed so it is not probable so we use our intelligence to separate possibility from probability if we start worrying about every single possibility we will not be able to do anything we will not be able to do nothing also because I am sitting here doing nothing but even the roof can fall down at that time so if there is a probability then I have to take care of it so if if I am driving on a slippery road on a stormy night then there is a probability of an accident so I have to be more careful so there is a difference between fear and fearfulness that we can understand with our intelligence and we can deal with fears that are probable and avoid those that are just possible because anything is possible and the best way to do this is actually to connect with Krishna because Krishna is our eternal shelter no matter whatever happens everything in this world may go away when nothing is left God is left with us He is there in our hearts He will never leave us, He will never abandon us the more we are connected with Krishna the more we get inner security the more we have that security the more we can face external uncertainty with maturity so the fear of we want our loved ones to be with us but we have to understand that whatever love we are getting from whoever ultimately it is God who is expressing His love through them you are my mother, you are my father, you are my brother you are my friend, you are my wealth you are my knowledge, you are my everything this doesn’t mean that we start worshipping our brother as a God what it means is, whatever we get from anyone, ultimately it is God who is giving us now when a mother offers a newborn baby a breast milk there is practically no other act of such intimate love and the mother is caring for the baby that way, at the same time the mother did not do anything special to manufacture the breast milk the same God who send a child into her womb, when that child comes out of her womb, that same God arranges for milk in her breast so the point is we understand that whatever love we are getting from whoever, we are grateful to them for that, at the same time we understand all that love is ultimately coming from Krishna and when we connect with Krishna our need for love, our need for shelter, our need for security, that becomes supremely fulfilled so by deepening our devotional connection and by using our intelligence to differentiate between possibility and probability we can respond to fears but not become fearful, is it answering your question?