In difficult relationships are tolerating mitigating and emigrating to be tried sequentially?

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I tolerate, mitigate, immigrate, sequential that we do one first and then other. But sometimes people just when the limit of tolerating is crossed and they are so angry that they cannot mitigate, they just want to immigrate, they want to just quit entirely.
So, it has become pressure cooker that is now exploding practically. Yes, I wouldn’t say that these are necessarily sequential. They can also be parallel or they can also be independent.
What I mean is that they all can be pursued with the purpose of serving Krishna. So, for example, practically everybody, throughout the week they work, the weekends they need a break. But they don’t talk about the work now.
Just need a break. So, in a sense, what are we doing? We are emigrating. The work is having some trouble.
It’s a burden for us. We are willing to face it but not throughout our life. I need some break.
So, maybe at the weekend it’s a break. Maybe once a year, twice a year we go. So, it’s not that emigration has to be permanent.
It can be a temporary withdrawal from the situation. It can also help us recharge our batteries and help us to come back and deal with the situation. So, if there is some conflict, is it that you just have to tolerate or should we try to mitigate? Yeah, I think mitigating is clarifying with each other, communicating honestly, sensitively.
Not just honest means I can live my feelings clearly. But I also have to be considerate about other person, how they are going to feel. So, they are sensitive also.
But communication is not there. Basically, we could say that in the other person there can be three broad things. There are some things we can change with a little effort.
Some things which changing them requires a huge effort. And some things that so, now, if something that is troubling us, this is the first tactic. With a little effort, we can change it.
But we don’t communicate only and we keep tolerating and tolerating. So, there is something which is very difficult for them to change. Then we may have to tolerate that.
But just communicating, if they listen to what I say, but rather than accepting any responsibility that I have done something wrong, because they are not doing right, that’s why I am shouting. Well, that’s not my intention. There is not even an acknowledgement that something needs to be changed.
So, through communication, where that person is coming. So, we could say communication is a part. Again, when I talk about these three alternatives, they may be not watertight also.
Sometimes, say, one particular measure that is done, that is part tolerance, part mitigation. Or sometimes it may be part tolerance and part emigration also. These two things, you decide that okay, we are working together.
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