In the name of not worrying, how can we avoid becoming irresponsible?

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when we say that we should not worry about our problems at that time does it how do we practically apply it because sometimes not worrying about the problems we may just be neglecting the problem or the mind may say that you are neglecting the problem that means we may be irresponsible or we may fear that I am becoming irresponsible not actually doing anything to deal with the problem so yes that is a possibility once one devotee had gone to buddhist tibution and then after coming back from buddhist tibution he lost all the lakshmi and then when he came back and told the temple sankirtan leader that the money is lost he said very calmly money is lost don’t get excited, Krishna said be equi-poised to have this and this so yes we should be equi-poised to have this and this but being equi-poised doesn’t mean being irresponsible we want to be equi-poised so that we can be more responsible if we are so caught with thoughts of the results that we don’t do the activity properly, don’t think about the results focus on the activity but it is not that if we become irresponsible that is not being equi-poised that is simply being irresponsible so yes we do need to be responsible and being the difference between being being responsible and being over anxious it is largely in the matter of realistic regulation that means if there are certain problems there are certain things which I can do about it and there are certain things which I just can’t do so for example say if we are children and we want them to become good devotees, good students good human beings we can do certain things for them we can give them good impressions give them good association and if we are doing what we can then that is our responsibility we should do that but beyond that we are constantly worried only about that then that may distract us from being able to do other things and eventually that worry we think that I am being responsible by worrying about this particular thing but because of that worry we are not responsible in doing other things so that means there has to be realistic regulation that means with our intelligence we need to evaluate ok this is the problem what all can I do about this and then this is what I am doing 1,2,3,4,5 these are things which I can do, these are things which I am doing and that’s all for example students have to study for exam if the student says if Krishna wants I will pass this exam well that is true but that does not take into account the point that Krishna wants us to study also many times you know students, I used to do a lot of youth outreach so students right in the preparatory leave when they have to study they suddenly start developing a great love for scripture and not serious philosophy also they develop love for Ramayana, Mahabharata, all stories and at that time some students oh these studies are all mundane ultimately career and everything is temporary I want to study Shastra well that love for Shastra was not there throughout the semester suddenly it comes before the exam why? because that Shastra study is seen as an escape from the hard work of studies college studies so then that is actually not proper so when we say that we should not be too anxious that means we evaluate what all we can do and we need to do that but beyond that we also have to acknowledge there is nothing much more than this that I can do so do your best and leave the rest to Krishna so the two extremes would be that we are so anxious how do we know we are hyper anxious that means we are so worried about that thing that we are not able to do any other thing properly because of that and when are we becoming irresponsible when there is a problem and we are not even doing what we can and should be doing for dealing with that problem so both that hyper anxiety and irresponsibility can be avoided when we intelligently understand this is what I can do to solve this problem and I do that and apart from that actually whenever a worry comes it is to tell the mind don’t worry it doesn’t work so one of the best ways to deal with the worry is to transform the worry into a prayer I am feeling worried about this Krishna please whatever is your will let it happen and give me the strength to serve you with whatever happens whatever prayer we want to offer in that situation offer that prayer and then by that prayer the thought moves from the worry to Krishna and then when the thought moves to Krishna we ourselves will become a little calm and then we can get the thought back to whatever work we are doing right now and that way we can avoid both the extremes of not doing anything and worrying so much that we can’t do other things