Is Chitraketu’s accepting Parvati’s curse even when he was not at fault meant to instruct us to accept whatever happens to us – Hindi?

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is it right to blame someone for self failure it depends on the purpose and the result if the purpose is simply to whitewash myself that actually I was not wrong that person was wrong then if our purpose is simply to whitewash ourselves then that may not be a very healthy thing because whenever things go wrong yes somebody else may have contributed to the factors which brought about the failure but there might be our fault also usually as we say we don’t clap with one hand so the other person might also be responsible we may also be responsible so now there is objective analysis and there is emotional over reaction so sometimes when something has gone wrong and we just want to feel so we point out blame to others so if our intention is simply to whitewash ourselves without actually understanding the reality then that will we may just feel good that person is blamed but we won’t learn, we won’t improve that’s one thing so it’s good to objectively analyze and that’s why I said the consequence is the consequence leading us to get the inspiration to improve ourselves or is the consequence that suppose actually that person’s mistake is what is responsible for the failure and I just happened to be there because I got victimized or whatever, if that is the case then blaming ourselves will be just burdening ourselves with guilt and negativity so we don’t have to blame ourselves at that time now we can point out because this person did this that’s why this happened so after that what do we do? the important thing is get over it because sometimes even if we blame the other person we may be victimized by others but we don’t have to embrace victimhood I don’t have to always oh this person did such a bad thing to me this person did such a bad thing to me we keep thinking about like that, that kind of attitude is negative that will divert our energy from doing what we can do so objectively analyze ok this mistake, this thing happened this failure happened because this person did this and I will be careful in future that I won’t trust such a person like this or whatever and we move on in life, basically when analyzing failures the goal should be to learn and then close that chapter if we don’t for that closure sometimes it may be required that we point out this person did this for the closure sometimes it may be required that we acknowledge the responsibility, I did the mistake but the point is just close it if we keep, if that blaming causes us to live in the past this person ruined my life, this person did like this this person is bad thing to me and living in the past we are simply wasting our energy, so whatever attitude helps us to learn and close the chapter we do that and move forward and sometimes in life problems come in such a way that it is not so easy to decide who is at fault because you know we may say ok this person is to blame but then that person may say no you did this, that’s why this happened I may say so sometimes we just close the chapter at that time and then after some days pass, some weeks pass sometimes some months pass then with that distance comes then we can actually develop the calmness and the clarity to learn otherwise thinking about that failure simply makes us more agitated neither we learn nor does other person accept the responsibility so basically I would say that if a failure has happened, failure is simply an event failure is not a person so we have to learn what we can and close that chapter and move on so objectively pointing out that the other person is responsible or objectively acknowledging that I am also responsible we do objectively that no need to burden ourselves with guilt for our own mistake or no need to burden ourselves with anger and hatred towards other person just move on in life ok thank you