Is forgiving those who have hurt us necessary for moving on in our life?

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if I say that I won’t forgive someone, and with that I’ll move on with my life, that not forgiving itself means that our emotions are locked in that person to some extent. So, basically, forgiveness does not necessarily mean that I have to go and tell that person I forgive them.
Forgiveness simply means that we don’t stay emotionally locked in that situation. The hurt in me that hasn’t, it can’t be let out otherwise. It’s going to be no more.
It’s one of our emotional, it’s not an emotional festering wound within us. So, if we are able to move on in our life, at least in essence we’re forgiven. So, if you say you’re not forgiving, what does it mean? That means that if you generate, I want them to be in a peace of my mind, I’m going to slap them, I’m going to get the law on their head.
Now, these are not necessarily wrong actions. If the wrong is a serious sin, that means what needs to be, it should be a conscious choice. It’s a consciously made decision.
But if we are moving on in our life, that means it’s a feeling that you have to some extent forgive it. And forgiving does not mean condoning. Forgiveness is a whole different topic.
Condoning, you know what that person did was not that bad also. It was a seriously bad thing. It may have been.
So, forgiving is not minimizing the other person’s mistake. Forgiving is just deciding that this person and this environment are not going to control my life. They are going to direct my life.
I have a life. It has scarred me, but I’m going to move on. So, when we basically remove emotional control or remove that event’s emotional control on us, that itself is forgiving.