Should we not give suggestions to others because of the fear that the suggestions will be rejected?

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transformed sometimes we may not give suggestions because we are apprehensive whether the suggestions will be accepted or not or whether they will be disliked so at that time we may not give so actually it’s a matter of reciprocation so it’s always possible that we may give some suggestion and someone else may not accept it but then as I said there are ways of saying no also Duryodhana was so dismissive in saying no afterwards nobody will want to approach so you know there are in every relationship has its own dynamic and we have to look at it in certain areas of life suggestions may be welcome in certain areas of life suggestions may not be so welcome so depending on the way we get a reciprocation we find you know in this area when I speak ok suggestions are appreciated and accepted then we will speak more in that in other areas it may be that they are not accepted but if you feel that is important then maybe we talk again or we talk through some other senior devotee or whatever but all of us need our space also so you you have to find out where suggestions are welcome it’s like you also need your area and if somebody else you don’t want even if it’s your family member or your husband only you don’t want them to be trying to micromanage everything so we have to find out what are the areas where suggestions are welcome and give in those areas and other areas we may not give so it’s a practical matter but we can learn through reciprocation that means you know how the response is there based on that we can decide there is no need to make it into a big issue see the rejection of a suggestion is not the rejection of the suggester sometimes you may accept our suggestion not accept the suggestion so we shouldn’t take it so personally but there is natural reciprocation if repeatedly suggestions are not accepted then we will not give that is fair enough so don’t make it an absolute principle either that we always have to give or always not have to give see based on reciprocation