The complex and unavoidable relationship we share with our mind

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now when we are say for whatever reason, unable to form relationships because we are not able to trust someone or we feel that this will not work out, whatever it is we always have a relationship with our own mind and that relationship is is a constant relationship other relationships we may have for some time, they may have different intensity, different proximity but the relationship with the mind is constant the mind is basically a very active force inside us which reflects what we have thought about ourselves and what the world has thought about us so if in someone’s childhood they were compared to an elder sibling why are you not smart like them why are you not outgoing like why can’t you get marks like her these sort of comparisons, they get impressed in the mind and then throughout life the mind keeps repeating you can’t do this, why can’t you do this why can’t you do that the impressions in the mind may be formed from different sources but once they are formed they keep affecting us the mind is like a constant voice that is speaking inside us so when you try to do something the mind is always expressing some opinion so when we meet someone suppose we are going for a job interview, the mind will say you are not going to do it you are not going to do it you will not pass this interview sometimes the mind may be pessimistic, sometimes the mind may be optimistic, but the basic point I am saying is the mind is there always and that is a relationship that is unavoidable it’s constantly there and the mind becomes a filter through which we look at everything else in the world so irrespective of what relationships we form with others or don’t form the important thing is you already have a relationship with the mind and the relationship with the mind is frequently something that doesn’t liberate us it actually entangles us it degrades us the mind is a remarkable thing in the sense that it very easily starts repeating things that means that if we search something on google now if I search something on google and you search something on google we will not get the same results google customizes the results based on our profile and especially based on what we have searched in the past so we could say our mind is like a google and whatever input comes from the outer world so right now you are hearing this class everyone of you, which point will impact you, how it will impact you that will vary and the same point may trigger different thoughts and that’s because our mind has gone through different thoughts different experiences different perspectives of those experiences and because of this our whole we experience the same world but we don’t experience it the same way all of us may go to the same place but we will all see it based on our mind and because our mind is different we see things differently and this is what often affects our relationships because I am looking at you through the filter of my mind you are looking at me through the filter of your mind and this way we all get a perception of each other which may be partly real but partly it is extrapolated by the mind this is like this this is like that and because of this often when people talk with each other they are not talking with each other they are talking past each other that means talking past means what? A is here B is here it’s like A and B are two characters in two different movies and A speaks something, B speaks something and although it seems to be related but it’s just disconnected you just don’t understand each other because the mind is coming in between the mind at one level the mind can bind us to external objects how do you say people become alcoholics? nobody starts out, I want to become alcoholic Oscar Wilde was a British playwright, he said giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world I have already done it a hundred times so I may decide to give it up but the mind doesn’t give it up and the mind comes back and says come on, do it, do it, do it and we do it once we do it twice, we do it thrice and afterwards it becomes a reflex action so if this floor is inclined this way as soon as water falls on this floor the water will move in this direction I may not want it to move but it will automatically move similarly for us, our mind is inclined in certain directions and whatever thought comes in it’s like water falling it will actually flow in that direction so if somebody is an alcoholic then their mind is addicted to alcohol that means their mind is inclined towards alcohol and anything we just remind them of alcohol it will trigger those desires so alcohol is a very gross physical object to which one may be attached to but we may be also attached to other things which may not be so gross some people are constant fault finders as soon as they come into a room this is wrong, this is wrong, this is wrong this is wrong this mind moves towards the faults some people are very pessimistic every situation this is not going to work, this is not going to work this is not going to work some people are extremely talkative normally we speak to express our thoughts some people speak to discover their thoughts and then I should have spoken that, I didn’t mean that so if they have got that habit then that’s what happens to them they may not want to do it but they just do it that way because their mind, their mental floor has become inclined in that direction when this happens sometimes it can be positive many times it is negative so when the mind gets inclined in a particular way and especially if it is inclined in a way that is harmful for us then no matter how much we try I will not think this way, I will not be like that I will not be a fault finder, I will not be a gossiper I will not be so negative we may resolve but the water keeps flowing in that direction so this is almost like a bond at the level of the mind Asha Pasha Kama Krodha Krishna says Asha Pasha Desire is like a noose that drags us we are bound by hundreds and thousands of desires based on which particular activities we have done repeatedly in the past those activities are what we get bound to and all of us have our particular bondages