Understanding how lust allures men and women differently

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now lust allures different people differently within lust allures men with pleasure and pleasure means men desire women the desire for having a woman for enjoying with a woman that is the basically the physical form of a woman that’s what a man is attracted to in contrast what a woman woman also lust is not free from lust but how lust attracts more or less captivates women is that women desire the desire of men so so desire if I can just remove far from both women desire men desire women and women desire the desire of men now what this means is that I put over here also that men are allured by pleasure through lust and women are allured through power allured through power means that it is a heady sense of power for a woman to see that okay I am able to attract so many men or attract such a powerful man if somebody enters into a room and everybody stops doing whatever they are doing and looks at that person it is it is a titillating sensation and especially when a woman is young and attractive and every young woman is by nature given some attractiveness and some women are of course much more attractive than others and that is that has its power so everybody has to deal with lust in their own ways and say men are you have to regulate the desire for men and women have to regulate the desire for the desire of men that means women are told that especially after marriage don’t dress very attractively to parade to the whole world dress in a chaste way so why is that because now that is the way in which say desire manifests male and female psychology are different and for a woman this the desire for the desire of man is the way lust allures in fact there are many significant ways in which this plays out in the modern world also even if you call it the post modern world the post modern today’s world has placed us has placed many challenges before us now sometimes it is not a very palatable subject to talk about but it is in some ways relevant to our topic that now porn is a big problem in today’s world and in some ways this problem illustrates how our technology has become too strong for our morality our technology has become too strong for our morality because the temptation is available just by clicking a few buttons and no in today’s world people can see more obscenity in 5 minutes then what maybe 50 years ago even 50 years ago people could have seen an entire lifetime so the temptation available is overwhelming so if we consider morality like our weight lifting capacity and technology temptations coming from technology are like a heavy weight so what has happened is that technology has grown too fast for our morality to keep pace and millions of people fall prey to this and there may be very good people who fall prey to it also in the sense that normally responsible respectable ways according to some surveys around 78% of people in the world succumb to this. It is difficult to first of all define what is porn second at what level is one considered to be like a regular user or addict but the point I am making is slightly different I am not going to go into porn I am going to talk here about how men and women the psychology works differently so usually porn is thought of as a male problem but there is another kind of another kind of genre which attracts women which has now been called as poor man poor man’s novels is like romance novels which have a lot of obscene content in them and these have a huge sales in fact one of the most prominent one of the best selling authors in this poor man’s genre when she published her first novel for one and a half years she got it was only an e-book and for one and a half years every month she was earning 400,000 dollars per month in royalty so millions of literally millions and millions of books are sold and the consumers of these kind of books are primarily women so men are attracted more visually so that’s why porn is visual but women are attracted more verbally to words and description and if you look at these novels you don’t have to look at them the point is that I read some articles about them and they are about quite a bit about sexual aggressiveness it features men who are quite aggressive so now what happens is it’s people find it titillating women find it titillating why because this is as I said women desire the desire of men so if a man is so aggressive in his desire for a woman not aggressive in the sense of being abusive or violent but aggressive within the context of affection then that captivates so the detail that is overlooked in many retellings of the of the Ramayana of this Ahalya story that lust allures different people Ahalya knew Ahalya knew that it was Indra that is a significant detail it’s not just passing information so there are people there are actually psychologists who treat there are people who porn addiction is a recognized form of addiction there are ways to treat that the psychologists were saying that we need to also have something like a hormones addiction that now what happens is if somebody is looking at visual obscenity it seems obscene clearly but if somebody is just reading a romance novel now of course romance novel is a very big genre and sometimes there are books which may be just about just a romantic story without much sexuality in it but they are the exception not the norm so people get hooked on to these books and then the people I mean primarily women again and their mind become filled with all kinds of fantasies and it has consequences also so the idea is that rather than thinking of lust as a as a problem among males who are victimizing women rather we need to see that lust is a common problem that males and females both face that’s why Krishna says that is the enemy of humanity he refers to everyone in this world it’s all devouring sinful enemy of the whole world and if you look at the Mahabharata at one level Ravan is the embodiment of lust that’s true but if you look at the whole story what inflames it is or what triggers the story is not just Ravana’s lust for Sita it is also Shurpanakha’s lust for Ram and because she is scorned because she is rejected so then she manipulates and schemes and he says okay Sita came in my way I will destroy Sita and how will I destroy Sita by having her abducted by taken if I can’t enjoy if I can’t enjoy Ram then no one will be able to enjoy Sita should not be able to enjoy Ram so what will happen it is she who instigates Ravan to abduct Sita now of course we can’t say that Ravan is innocent no Ravan is of course definitely has he is the embodiment of lust as I mentioned but in this particular narrative Ravana’s lust is triggered by Sita initially when Ravan hears about how about what has happened he is angry but when he hears it Sita sorry it’s Ram he actually he decides not to do anything because he has heard from his military generals from Maricha specifically that it’s a complicated storyline and I won’t go into detail again but suffice it to say that see first events are that Shurpanakha tries to allure Ram and Ram refuses and then she tries to attack Sita and then she is punished for that then she goes to her brothers Karan and Dushan and they attack Ram and Ram kills all of them single-handedly and then one general Akampan survives his name is Akampan but he is doing all Kampan he is trembling and he runs away and tells Ravan what has happened and at that time Akampan gives the idea to Ravan don’t attack Ram directly it seems that Ram must be very attached to his wife that’s why he has brought his wife to the forest demons can only think in terms of the negative they can’t think in terms of commitment and service Ram must be wanting to enjoy Sita that’s why he wants her to be with him and that’s why he has brought her to the forest so but he can’t think in terms of Sita is committed Sita wants to be with Ram she has a sense of commitment