When others trouble us, should we just tolerate things?

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so when we face problems in our workplace from other people should we just focus on changing our response or should we also try to do something to change them yes certainly we want to improve the situation and usually there are if you look at the problems in our life we can broadly classify those problems into three categories there are we can call them as direct action problems indirect action problems and no action problems so direct action means people don’t take me seriously because I don’t keep my word because I don’t come on time I don’t deliver my promises so then if I want people to take me seriously then I need to change myself that is a direct action problem where we get more people take us more seriously when we take our own world and our commitment seriously second is indirect action problem indirect action problem means that everybody is independent and we can’t change their behaviour but we can try to at least help them in changing themselves see the door to personal change the door to personal change has a key that can be opened only from inside that means no one can force anyone to change we can only inspire others to change we can only help others to change if they want to change but still sometimes people may just be ignorant they may not realize that by the way they are behaving am I audible behind? so by the way they are behaving how they are creating trouble for others that may not be they may not be aware of it so communication is important and with whom we communicate, how we communicate that is sensitive, not judgmental you are so irresponsible and you create so much trouble for me as soon as we make a value judgment, you are so irresponsible I am not irresponsible but rather than giving a judgment about a behaviour we just tell the behaviour when you say that you will do it and you are not able to do it when you don’t do it, it creates so much problem for me, see value judgment means there are facts which people can’t deny, facts are facts but when we give a value judgment to the facts then that creates a battlefield so we just focus on the facts and try to communicate in an effective way so often people change so certainly communication is our responsibility we can’t assume, some people say especially in close relationship we may say that if you loved me, you would have understood what I am feeling no, people are not omniscient people are not omniscient it is our responsibility to communicate what we are feeling so communication is important but sometimes there are situations where there are no action problems some people are just the way they are so then we have to decide what to deal with it sometimes some problems are troubling but they are not unbearable we just have to live with it but sometimes the problem may be too much troubling then we may have to change our situation that’s why I meant to walk away from the situation but in all situations communication is important and Trishad knows how to communicate anudvega karambakhyam satyam priyahitam jaya anudvega karambakhyam, non-agitating speak in a way that is non-agitating anudvega karambakhyam, satyam priyahitam jaya speak truthfully, but speak in a palatable way that is beneficial for others if you speak in an agitating way then we worsen the problem but we try to be sensitive, respectful and objective not judgment