When others’ words makes us disturbed and dissatisfied how to deal with that dissatisfaction – Hindi?
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then often communication does help in resolving a lot of problems But whatever the situation is, we will talk about it with a negative attitude. And some people get a lot of pleasure in pulling others down. So, it is important for us to be alert, but we should never get too excited.
So, if we understand that some people always destroy my enthusiasm, then we should stay away from them. If they are a devotee, they can respect us, but how is it in Bhakti? Different people have different definitions of what is important in Bhakti. If a person is a devotee who is doing a lot of publishing, and another person is a devotee who is studying a lot of scriptures, and another person is a devotee who is studying a lot of scriptures, then he will say, I have published 1000 scriptures in a month, how many have you published? I have helped so many people, what have you done? So, if we compare like this, then what will happen among the devotees? Different devotees have different definitions of success, even in devotional life.
And, if we associate too closely with others, who have opposite definitions of success in devotional life, we will make ourselves discouraged. Different devotees have different definitions of success, even in devotional life. So, if I have to study scriptures, I should do it with those who study scriptures.
Whatever service I am doing, I should do it primarily with those who encourage me to do that service. It is not that I don’t like other services. So, doing scriptures is important.
And, I respect them too. But, it is not that they are doing it, so I have to do it too. And, if I am not doing it, then I am not doing anything.
So, we always have to make sure that we associate with those who encourage us. And, it is not that we can avoid associating with others. But, when we cannot avoid associating with them, then we should make a habit not to give importance to their words.
It is not easy to say this. But, still, when can we do that? When we are associating with those who encourage us. So, if I meet 10 people and all of them are encouraging me, then I will be completely discouraged.
But, if I am associating with a majority of people, they encourage me, help me, warn me if I am doing something wrong. But, if I am always disappointed, then it is not good. So, we have to choose our association.
And, especially when we cannot choose our association, then we have to decide how much importance we have to give to their words. An important skill in relationships is the art of intelligent neglect. An important skill in relationships is the art of intelligent neglect.
So, in some things, we need to neglect some people. They will think like this only. They will think like this only.
I have to do my work. And, if many people are saying like this, then our Mahabharata devotees, our elders, whom we have a good relationship with, can go and ask them, that I am doing like this, but they are saying like this. So, what should I do? So, if our elder devotees are getting good guidance, they are telling us that you are doing something good, they are doing it right, then we should not worry others too much.
And, in this way, we can keep our enthusiasm. So, dissatisfaction is in things. The things which I don’t have, I become dissatisfied by seeing them.
In the same way, some people will never appreciate us. They will never be satisfied with us. So, if I try to get their appreciation, then my whole life will be wasted.
So, it is not like that they are bad or I am bad. Some people may have different nature. So, we should understand that the easiest way to become miserable is to try to make everyone happy.
If we try to make everyone happy, then they will be happy, and we will be sad. So, we should understand that some people are like this, and we should not make them satisfied. It does not mean that we should deliberately trouble them more, provoke them.
But, we should keep doing our work. We should understand that dissatisfaction is like that I did not get this thing, I am dissatisfied, and my life is going on. In the same way, we should understand that why this person does not speak well about me.
That person is not going to speak well about you. Leave it. Keep your life ahead.
It is not like that everyone in the world or everyone in our relationship is going to praise us. So, we should understand that some people have different ideas, and I have different ideas. So, if I am doing the right thing, and my master is telling me that I am doing the right thing, then I should keep doing my work.
Yes, sir.