When repressing desires doesn’t work what to do?

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Hare Krishna yeah actually this nirutti is what I am going to talk elaborately in the second part of the class anartha nirutti yes if our focus is on saying no to something it just doesn’t work, for example if I know there is some electric current in this object I can decide I will not touch this but when it comes to some, at the mental level to not think of something is also to think of that thing is it? so I can physically not touch something but if I will call it I am not going to drink I am not going to drink the mind is so cunning, the mind will just delete the not I am going to drink so if I am thinking I am not going to drink and I am still thinking of drinking only so what happens is if we just focus on this dynamic of indulgence or resistance if this is the only two we are thinking about then resistance is very difficult to sustain but then we need higher level of the building that is transcendence so transcendence means when we become absorbed in something higher then we can we can go beyond this, now specifically which anartha, how one goes beyond that will vary from person to person so whether it is whichever particular anartha is, what particular desire is so sometimes the purification may just be by understanding I say no to it, sometimes the purification may be that I understand it but there is some regulated indulgence and then after that experience there can be remuneration so the point is well taken that we can’t wish away or deny our anarthas if I have anger and if I suppress that anger it’s not going to go I suppress once, twice, thrice five times, afterwards it comes out like a volcano all that accumulates anger so we can’t suppress it we have to, normally we think of expressing or suppressing but there is a third option that is processing we have to appropriately process it so processing involves acknowledging that it exists and I have to deal with it and somebody who does not have that particular anartha they will say why are you so short tempered they will just not understand that person so the specific anartha can vary from person to person and how that person will process it that’s up to them and they may take some guidance from some senior devotees or ultimately it’s between them and Krishna, so we can’t wish away the anartha, it doesn’t work like that for some desire, say we might be eating meat and we get prasadam just lose the desire for meat some desires go away like that but if some don’t go away that does not necessarily mean that we have to live lifelong with the feeling of guilt we just have to deal with it in a realistic way this is what I have and I’ll gradually deal with it like we are centered on an anartha either in terms of indulging in it or in terms of rejecting it we are still centered on that and from that rejection again indulgence will happen because still the consciousness is caught over there and when I say transcendence is what we have to come to now with respect to different anarthas different all of us, because they are individual so we may require different processes for giving up that anartha somebody may just immediately hear and renounce, somebody may have to go through it and gradually they renounce it is for going from the level of indulgence or abstinence to the level of transcendence how we do that that’s an individual process and for different for each particular devotee and for each particular conditioning that we have it will vary from person to person does that address the question?