If we live in a complicated environment that requires us to be duplicitous, how can we prevent duplicity from becoming our habit
Question: If we live in a complicated environment that requires us to be duplicitous, how can we prevent duplicity from becoming our habit
Answer:
Words shape perception. Duplicity carries a strongly negative connotation—I’d avoid it. What some might call “duplicity” often falls into two more nuanced categories:
- Culture – It’s basic civility to restrain emotions when appropriate. For example, feeling anger toward an elder but choosing not to yell isn’t hypocrisy; it’s respect.
- Pragmatism – Sometimes, to achieve a greater good, we must engage diplomatically. Sanatana Goswami spoke strategically to the jailer to secure his release and continue serving Chaitanya Mahaprabhu. This wasn’t deceit but skillful means for a higher purpose.
Can Diplomacy Become a Harmful Habit?
Yes, if unchecked. However, nature equips humans with the ability to regulate emotions—a vital skill for maintaining relationships. If our minds’ raw thoughts were visible, even cherished bonds would crumble. The key is balance:
Three Safeguards Against Negative Drift
- Clarity of Purpose
- Anchor actions in service to Krishna or a noble aim.
- Example: Learning technology during lockdowns to continue preaching, despite discomfort.
- Spaces for Authenticity
- Cultivate relationships where candor is possible. Even a few such connections prevent inner corrosion.
- Like a lotus shedding water, let diplomacy “slide off” without staining your heart.
- Accountability Mechanisms
- A trusted friend who can warn, “You’re crossing a line here,” or
- Journaling to reflect: “Was this action aligned with my values?”
Diplomacy vs. Duplicity
- Diplomacy = Adjusting communication for a higher goal.
- Duplicity = Manipulating others for selfish ends.
Devotees may employ the first but must reject the second. By combining purpose, authenticity, and introspection, we navigate complexity without compromising integrity.