Do material desires age with age? If one finds it difficult to control material desires, is it advisable to put off the inner fight till one grows older when it will be easier?
So, we just use whatever nature we have in Krishna’s service.
Should one postpone one’s spiritual life so that in old age one can practice spiritual life more easily when the desires have subsided? Answer in the 9th canto of Srimad Bhagavatam it is described that यादुस्तेजाद्नेदुर्मतेभेर् जीरियतो वान जीरियते तां प्रिष्णाम दुःकनिबहाम शर्मकामादुतम्तेजेत यादुस्तेजाद्नेदुर्मतेभेर् those desires which are very difficult to give up यादुस्तेजाद्नेदुर्मतेभेर् which misdirect our consciousness and then जीरियतो वान जीरियते even when the body grows old जीरियतो न जीरियते these desires do not grow old तां प्रिष्णाम those cravings दुःकनिबहाम those cravings simply lead to misery शर्मकामादुतम्तेजेत I will develop self-control and give them up right now so this is King Ayyati speaking when he realizes that just by indulgence in sense gratification the material desires don’t decrease and go away so in general everything in this world as it becomes older it becomes weaker if we have a table if we keep using it it becomes old and the wood starts creaking and cracking same with a house or a gadget and even with our body the older it becomes the more vulnerable it becomes to sickness and accident and breakage but contrary to this normal law of material nature is the nature of material desires the older the material desires become the stronger they become if a person has smoked or drunk or taken drugs only once that person can just shake it off but if a person has taken it several times then it becomes a not just a habit but addiction and it’s almost impossibly difficult to give it up it’s certainly possible but it’s extremely difficult so the more we indulge in desires the desires become stronger and it becomes more and more difficult to give them up in fact every time we indulge in a worldly desire a invisible rope is formed between our minds and that particular sense object and every time we indulge in that desire this rope becomes thicker and tighter and it decreases our freedom and mental mobility this desire doesn’t tie us up physically it ties up us mentally so a person who is addicted to say drinking alcohol he may be in his office where there is no alcohol available but his mind is being pulled by that desire so will this desire go away as a person becomes older? No the body’s capacity to indulge in that desire may go away but the desire itself will not go away that’s why when people become old nowadays even when people become 40, 45, 50 they start having nightmares that they may lose their sexual potency but although they may have indulged in the pleasure throughout their youth and middle age still the desire is not gone that’s why they want to do some artificial injections or do some organ transplants do some sort of surgical manipulation of the body’s system by which they can regain and even increase the ability to enjoy so age itself is no guarantee or arrangement for becoming free from material desires now it is true that the scriptures say that yes first one can be a brahmachari then one can be a grahastha and then in old age one can take vanaprastha and sanyas and we see of course that very few people actually do this most people stay in in the worldly life immersed even if their government retires them or their company retires them their material desires don’t retire them they don’t get tired of their material desires and they don’t retire from material enjoyment therefore the only way that a person can become detached is by being determined to be detached so the progression to vanaprastha and sanyas will work only if there has been brahmachari training before the grahastha ashram and similarly in all forms of indulgence there has to be training in self mastery in sense control and there has to be a regulated license for sense control with the constant driving intention of wanting to minimize and eliminate sense gratification only then will the passage of age lead to the gradual decrease of desires so what causes the decrease of desires is not just the passage of time it is the realization that comes by spiritual practice so if at present we find chanting Hare Krishna chanting Hare Krishna and practicing spiritual life difficult primarily because we have too many material desires and we find it impossible to give up those material desires then the very least that we need to do is that we continue our spiritual life at least in terms of chanting Hare Krishna and practicing the positive injunctions of spiritual life and along with that at whatever level we we have the facility and the capacity to fulfill the material desires we can fulfill them as long as they are not sinful and as long as they don’t break the four regulated principles of meat-eating, gambling, intoxication and illicit sex then we can fulfill them but just fulfilling them will never lead to any detachment or realization what will lead to the realization is the understanding that will come from scriptural study and spiritual practice material enjoyment is always disappointing whenever we try to enjoy the actual pleasure turns out to be much much lesser than what our mind had fantasized but unfortunately the mind doesn’t realize through this that actually the pleasure is always like this what the mind imagines is okay this time the pleasure was not there next time the pleasure will be there and the mind always keeps us endlessly agitated with this hopeless hope and what will deflate this hopeless hope of the mind is not just the repeated experience but the parallel experience of spiritual happiness so on one side we experience material enjoyment because the material desires are so strong that we can’t give up the material indulgences but along with that we practice spiritual life by which we get experience of some kind of spiritual happiness and along with that we study scripture by which we understand okay this is material enjoyment, this is spiritual enjoyment and at least philosophically speaking spiritual enjoyment is higher than material enjoyment and I may not realize it right now but again and again when we read it and hear it in the scripture gradually that wisdom starts percolating and then so we keep hearing that actually spiritual wisdom is spiritual happiness is much higher than material happiness and at the same time we gradually experience material enjoyment I am trying so much but the actual enjoyment I am getting is so little along with that I am getting so much anxiety and frustration and irritation on the other hand even the little endeavors that I am practice putting in spiritual life that is giving me some peace that is giving me some satisfaction that is giving me some clarity of thought so we start by our own experience contrasting material enjoyment and spiritual enjoyment and then we get the conviction okay spiritual happiness is much much better let me focus on that so to summarize it is not the passing of time and the aging of the body that will decrease our material desires but it is the three things the regulated indulgence in material enjoyment without without crossing the boundary of sin to the regular practice of spirituality by which one experiences spiritual happiness especially chanting Hare Krishna and the serious study of scripture by which one understands and contrasts material and spiritual happiness so these three things will gradually lead one to recognize the futility of material desires and realize the glory of spiritual desires and spiritual happiness and then one can become detached from matter and attached to Krishna