If someone keeps misunderstanding us repeatedly, how to respond?
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what to do if some person has repeated misunderstanding about us which they are not ready to change in general we can influence other people’s behaviour only in three ways one is we can give knowledge second is we can provide facility third is we can set example that means give knowledge means provide facility means we can have a third person involved both of us trust or whatever and then set an example set an example means that we act in a consistent way so that people don’t get that misunderstanding about us but beyond that you know we can’t do anything to change other people’s behaviour so it’s a to some extent little disempowering to realize that I can’t do anything in this situation but then accepting that this is all I can do if I am doing that then if this person is not changing then we may have to as I said create a little safe distance in the relationship we may not open our heart to that person so much because ultimately love can be one way but a loving relationship has to be two way so we may have concern for that person but if that person is always rebuffing us always doubting us, always aggravating us then that means basically that person doesn’t want that relationship it’s not that we reject them but we sometimes create a little bit of a distance by which we are safe because if we let other people influence us too much then we ourselves may not be able to do things that are important for us and then that will further perpetuate their impression so that you know this person is bad or this person is negative so when we go by airplane at that time they give the instruction about safety mask so they say even if you are a mother you should put the safety mask on yourself first then put it on your child so if in a particular relationship if the other person’s presence is choking us too much then we need to create some level of distance by which at least we are not choked then we can see if we can help that person to change the misconception misconception that is there but if we get too worried about changing the misconception then that burden actually chokes us further that disempowers us so we have to make sure that we keep first things first so our own peace of mind that necessitates keeping a certain distance that’s what we should do