While choosing a spouse, is matching astrological charts essential?

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the other question about say if during marriages if a couple wants to get married how much should they rely on astrology for making choices and sometimes some marriages may work out well even when the astrological charts they are not consulted or they may not match they don’t match still the marriage may work out well so how important is it to consult astrological charts there are broadly we could say there are three broad categories of knowledge paravidhya and aparavidhya paravidhya is spiritual knowledge knowledge of the soul, knowledge of God and how the soul and God can be connected that is spiritual that is what the Bhagavad Gita primarily focuses on that is what the Bhagavatam focuses on then there is aparavidhya aparavidhya is non transcendental or material knowledge now material knowledge that is useful for living in this world and pursuing a goal beyond this world now that material knowledge may be acquirable in different ways material knowledge everything is not fixed all the time so for example Ayurveda is a particular form of medicine that is a part of aparavidhya and Ayurveda can help people get treated and cured but it is not that when we start practicing spirituality everybody has to take only Ayurvedic medicine and we cannot take any other form of medicine no there are different forms of medicine whatever we feel inspired to take whatever has worked for us whatever we find that the teachers are trustworthy we may take that form of medicine and basically we move onward functionally that means with respect to the paravidhya that is essential for us to function in this world that is essential for us to pursue life’s ultimate goal but as far as the aparavidhya is concerned how much we need to use it how much we feel inspired to use it that can vary according to time, place, circumstances so with respect to the use of astrology a lot of factors come into the picture that as I said astrology does determine can determine to a significant extent the broad natures of people so sometimes some people astrology may tell that they are not really compatible and when that is the case those individuals can they still have a say a happy marriage it is possible if they have a high level of tolerance that yes there are differences and those differences will cause conflicts but our purpose is higher and we keep that in mind so it’s not that the astrology alone determines whether the marriage is going to be successful or not that is one factor an important factor which describes the overall compatibility of people in terms of their astrological charts but even people who are overall compatible if they don’t spend time with each other or they harp too much on minor points of contention then even their relationship may get spoiled on the other hand people even if they are widely they are widely variant in their natures as per astrology but if they work on commonalities they may they may still have proper marriages so whether one should always go according to astrological charts it depends primarily on one’s own understanding of life, one’s own understanding of astrology if one has not had one has been brought up in a culture where one has lot of faith in astrology and one knows astrologers in whom one has faith just not this faith in astrology but astrologers in whom one has faith then one may consult astrologers and then govern one’s life choices according to astrologers guidance but it is not that if one doesn’t have any faith in astrology if people don’t have any faith in astrology and then they are prohibited from making some relationship just because astrological charts say no then they may become too alienated from the whole body of higher knowledge just because of that particular mandatory that particular insistence and then that may be detrimental for them so what should not be done is astrology should not be used as a rationalization for one’s own short sighted choices there is one devotee she has written a book how to mess your life with astrology and say somebody is in a marriage which is unhappy then that person thinks maybe we should break up this marriage so then they go to one astrologer this is a good marriage you can work then they go to second astrologer then like that you go to 25 astrologers till you find one astrologer this marriage is not going to work and then use that to break up the marriage so what we are doing we are not really relying on astrology what we are doing is we have our own impulses and we want to act on those impulses and we use astrology to justify that so you know astrology is not a substitute for responsibility we are ultimately responsible for our actions and whatever actions we take astrology can give us some guidance here you may have bigger incompatibilities or bigger challenges here you may have lesser challenges here these things work out well but it’s not that astrology indemnifies us from our own responsibility and based on our understanding of taking up responsibility in relationships and based on our own faith in astrology, our own understanding of what life is people can if they feel it’s important it is good to consult astrologers but it is not good to impose astrology on people who do not have that faith because that can alienate them and later on they will use that to blame others you said like this, you said like that so if somebody has to consult astrology then overall they need to have an understanding of astrology properly, only when they have proper understanding, not that they have to study astrology lifelong, but a basic understanding of how astrology works if they have an understanding, it should not be that astrology is used as a as a rationalization for either doing what we want to do or not doing what we don’t want to do we have to recognize that we have to take responsibility for our actions and for guiding our actions we can take astrology as one guider, but it should not be the sole determiner and it does not absolve us of our responsibilities does it answer your question? thank you very much so tomorrow we will have much longer question and answer session, I will speak probably for half an hour or lesser than that so if you have any questions tomorrow, you can come with that we will discuss tomorrow